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Surgery on 1/10...scared and nervous and rethinking my decision



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I'm worried about whether or not I'll be able to do this for the rest of my life, and I'm worried about dying LOL I have no idea why this is a big worry, but it is.

I have a band and am doing revision to the sleeve. I never had these worries with the band.

Are these second thoughts/fears normal?

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if you didn't have second thoughts, i'd say that you were a lunatic. :) this is a major decision and should be treated as such.

for me, the pro's outweighed the cons.

for as long as i can remember, when i ate, i had NO offswitch. i could honestly sit at a buffet and eat for an entire hour, then go home and have desert. i never felt full. this surgery fixed that problem for me. i now have a much more 'normal' life than i ever had before. i'm 38 and the life i have now, is not hard to live. ya know what's hard? not being able to cut your own toenails. not being able to play with your kids. waking up in the middle of the night thinking 'is that gas or am i finally dying of a heart attack'.

i love my sleeve, and i would do it again every day and twice on sunday.

good luck.

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I didn't have a revision, but this surgery has changed my life. Since surgery I am no longer on insulin, high blood pressure meds or high cholesterol meds. It has saved my life. I was scared too, and there are no guarantees, but this tool really works. I eat pretty much what I want still, I just don't want as much. I don't know if you have co-morbidities or not, but they were the deciding factor for me. Good luck and let us know what you decide. We'll support your decision either way.

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Hi, my surgery is on January 16. Im scared too. Its especially hard because everyone has an opinion. My family is also scared and hearing there fears doesnt make it easier. But i do understand they just love me. Just the way I am. What they arent thinking of now is that just the way I am is not healthy. So scared or not I have made peace with it. I know its the right thing and I have to leave it in gods hands. I hope you find that peace for yourself. Good luck and god bless whatever you decide :)

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Thanks all.

I am still really, really nervous LOL but am going to do it. I need to have my gallbladder removed, and I NEED to get the band out, I hate this thing. I figure if I have to do those things anyway, how much more dangerous is the sleeve,really?

Unfortunately, as it gets closer, I get more and more nervous. I trust my surgeon, my family is totally supportive, I know it's the right choice, and I am scared to dea th :(

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I am also having VGS surgery on the 10th.. I am a single mom and have had the same fears as well... I am so excited and getting so nervous...Good Luck! :-)

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I am also having VGS surgery on the 10th.. I am a single mom and have had the same fears as well... I am so excited and getting so nervous...Good Luck! :-)

Good luck to you! Be sure to update after surgery, I'd love to know how you did.

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I am having the VGS this Fri. I am extremely scared but have been inspired by many of the posts on this site from people who have already had the surgery. I am excited as well to start a new journey and to finally feel like I am living and not have my wait hold me back ANYMORE! I will keep everyone updated:)

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Thanks all.

I am still really, really nervous LOL but am going to do it. I need to have my gallbladder removed, and I NEED to get the band out, I hate this thing. I figure if I have to do those things anyway, how much more dangerous is the sleeve,really?

Unfortunately, as it gets closer, I get more and more nervous. I trust my surgeon, my family is totally supportive, I know it's the right choice, and I am scared to dea th :(

I just had mine done on 12/28. I went thru the same fears. My hubby was my rock. He was with me 100% of the time. I have battled for years with my weight & I was tired. I would lose weight only to gain it back.

You'll be fine post-op. I personally have no hunger. My mind wants me to eat but my stomach isn't hungry. it's crazy. I have a friend who had the band done & still was hungry. She lost quite a bit but gained some back.

I previously had my gallbladder out 2 years ago. Honestly - the pain/discomfort from the VSG is the same as the gallbladder.

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Good luck to you! Be sure to update after surgery' date=' I'd love to know how you did.[/quote']

Thanks! I definately will!

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My surgery is in the morning and I can't sleep from nerves!! Ill let you know how it goes. I have so many health problems that this is my chance to get out of pain so I'm all in!!

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I was nervous even when I was transfer myself from the gurney to the operating table.

As far as the worry about being sleeved for the rest of your life.. It really becomes a normal part of every day life once you are a few months out. It has much less maintenance compared to the band!

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Thanks everyone. I'm more nervous of the "what if" I think. i'm not worried about my surgeon, he's great, has a great reputation, etc. I'm worried about "what if" I die, who will take care of my kids. This is my fear LOL everything else is just minor worry.

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Your kids will have a happier, healthier mom who can do more activities with them!

Here's hoping! and thanks

I'm scheduled for 11am tomorrow. Hopefully I'll be updating sometime after that! LOL

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