Can I Slap You Now?

[Butterthebean 8,146]

Well la-de-dah for her...she may have actually been genuinely concerned that you may have problems like her friend, but I think she was tooting her own horn...a little too loudly....and right in your face!! I would feel the same way you do about going to this particular gym. I'd go somewhere else.

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't let anyone's judgemental opinion affect what I do with my life, or where I do it. You don't need anyone's approval to be healthy....and you certainly won't get everyone's approval no matter what gym you go to so who cares? Just stay there and slowly, over time change her opinion of what a sleever can do.

[katsmeow 70]

Well I would definitely let that gym know. She needs to keep her private thoughts to herself. It's about getting healthy and that's what your doing. They need to either get on board and support you or keep their judgements and thoughts to themselves.

[skintowin 21]

I have had some one tell me about a friend of a friend getting sick every time she eats, I told him, she probably eats too much and she should really work on that. Lol

[delta_girl 931]

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't let anyone's judgemental opinion affect what I do with my life, or where I do it. You don't need anyone's approval to be healthy....and you certainly won't get everyone's approval no matter what gym you go to so who cares? Just stay there and slowly, over time change her opinion of what a sleever can do.

So true. No outside endorsements nor approval needed.

[novam vitam 117]

We've all lost weight "naturally" at one point in our lives or another. .... I probably would have (in the sweetest voice possible) offered condolence for her friend, told her how fantastic I felt and proceeded to tell her how likely she statistically is to gain all (plus some) of her weight back, and how I hope, for her sake, (and the sake of her livelihood) she's one of the lucky few.

[Tisa 52]

i probably wouldn't have told her, i mean yeah, i wouldn't lie about it to the people in my life, im gonna tell if they ask me.I think she feels all high and mighty that she lost it the natural way. whats so great about the natural way anyway, if you want to ride a bike all the way to Disneyland fine but don't judge me for taking a plane -___-

[AStephenson 159]

I'm sorry, but I wouldn't let anyone's judgemental opinion affect what I do with my life, or where I do it. You don't need anyone's approval to be healthy....and you certainly won't get everyone's approval no matter what gym you go to so who cares? Just stay there and slowly, over time change her opinion of what a sleever can do.

True, true... Some days it's easy to let things roll off, some days not, but if this were my first contact with a place of business that I planned on spending a good amount of time and money at and I was made to feel badly, I certainly wouldn't want to frequent there. OP can do what she wants, just giving my perspective

[Chicago1962 125]

"I am so sorry for your friend. That must be horrible. I don't have that problem at all, thank goodness. Ok - about my exercise program - where do we start?"

[lovelyware 2]

Get a life loser trainer!!

[buffalogal 52]

It is still A LOT of work. I'd politely set her straight and take advantage of the moment to set her straight.

[BigTXChris 13]

Well in reading your post her comment was that her friend who had gastric bypass gets sick everytime she eats. How is this statement negative towards you? You could have pleasantly stated how well you are doing yadda' date=' yadda. Maybe this would have lead to conversation about not every patient having a negative experience. Just my two cents. [/quote']

Sometimes it's not what you say it's how you say it.

[rosehips 121]

My two cents is......you told the trainer your personal story as information so she knew you are losing weight fast, loose skin is a concern. A persons 1st time w/ a trainer is intimidating enough, and the gym is sort of overwhelming in the beginning. Your hackles went up cause you were giving her information, her job is to build you up mentally and physically. Athletes know the mind controls part of the success on winning.

What she said is like going to get your teeth cleaned after you have been away for a few years and having your hygienist say, "man I had a friend who stayed away from teeth cleaning, she still bleeds all the time, I have my teeth cleaned every 6 months so I am fine. As a hygienist I would be reprimanded. A professional meets the client where the client is.

God luck, Keep the confidence you are headed for success.