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Oops, hit "enter" too soon. Anyway, I know it's kind of off-topic but is anyone else experiencing a bit of jealousy from the hubby? I'm 6 weeks out, down 24 lbs, and I'm getting a bit of a jealous overtone lately...comments about being friends with guys on Facebook, staying late at work to go to gym...one thing I did NOT expect as a side-effect of losing weight and getting healthier was to have to reassure my husband. Like I don't have enough to think about!

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I am still 6 days pre~op, and can see this is gonna be an issue, Glad u posted about it gonna keep watching this post for information, and help! Good Luck, 24lbs Way to GO!!!

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Oops, hit "enter" too soon. Anyway, I know it's kind of off-topic but is anyone else experiencing a bit of jealousy from the hubby? I'm 6 weeks out, down 24 lbs, and I'm getting a bit of a jealous overtone lately...comments about being friends with guys on Facebook, staying late at work to go to gym...one thing I did NOT expect as a side-effect of losing weight and getting healthier was to have to reassure my husband. Like I don't have enough to think about!

He's seeing how sexy and more beautiful you are going to be, and he knows men will be hitting on you. Maybe he needs a little more attention from you to reassure him. He probably is feeling a little left out because of all the changes you've made with your life. It's not the normal routine that he's use to. He will adjust in time with your help.

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Mine say once i get to 120 pounds he says im divorcing him ....he also believes im talking to the deli guy in town.....1 went in there once in 8 yrs living in town...he also stalks my fb lol.....hes gettting nuts

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Mine just started loosing it. Very frustrating and upsetting.

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These r funny. Guess I will have this too look forward to too. My hubby is usually not very jealous.

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Mine has been very supportive. We talked at length prior to my surgery, and continue to have an open dialogue. I included him with a few support group meetings, he comes to my post op appts. My plan was to exercise together, but we both have fallen short in that one.

So if your husband needs some reassurance, give it to him. Your marriage deserves the extra effort.

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Mine didn't speak to me for 3 days when I told him I was having the surgery. He knows he's been a lousy husband and was sure I would leave him. But that is his problem born out of his own insecurities. I just don't let it be mine because then he wins. In the beginning he would try to sabotage me and try to get me to eat things I shouldn't. When he realized I couldn't eat those things, he would offer them and then go "oh, but you can't eat that" rubbing my nose in it. Playing mind games. One of the best things I have learned in this journey, is how to stand up for myself. I finally looked him in the face and said, " at some point you are going to have to realize that every time you do something to try hurt me, or try to stick it to me, the person you hurt the worse is yourself!" He asked what I meant and I told him to think about it. It wasn't long after that, that he stopped trying to

undermine my efforts. Sadly you may encounter a lot of negativity during this process. You just have to do what's right for you. You will never be able to make everyone else happy, so spend your energy making yourself happy!

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