If you were a binge eater before

[GeauxForIt 659]

No offense was meant! Apologies to you and yours. My mom tries to sabotage me at every turn. Glad they are supportive.

My mother tries to sabotage me too! Left all kinds of "goodies" at my house after xmas and I ASKED her not to bring that crap in my house. smh

[jac1970 39]

My mother tries to sabotage me too! Left all kinds of "goodies" at my house after xmas and I ASKED her not to bring that crap in my house. smh

When I went to visit mine, she spent 90% of her time trying to force feed me and the other 10% bitching about my weight. She's all of 120 lbs and has no clue what this is like.

[desertmom 297]

Hi

Gonna give my 2 cents about temptation.

The sooner one learns to deal with this,the better.Normal weight people eat those kinds of "unacceptables" all the time.We are confronted with it all the time.The way I dealt with it was to resist it and cry for it,(behind closed doors though) I mourned it until I could see it for what it was,EVIL..lol.

And then I realized that it holds no power over me anymore as I CHOOSE to dislike these things from now on.

Now,when I am tempted I remind myself that I dislike it,it wants to make me fat again.It really works every time.It took me about 6 months to get there though.My "go to's" have changed completely.I have a nice acceptable treat to counter almost every craving or desire.Now I know,I did have to fake it to make it in the end and it became so for me.I now really dont like ice cream,cake,crisps,Pasta,bread.They suck!lol

[desertmom 297]

Jac1970.

The less we react to it,the faster they get tired of doing this.Laugh about it!It feels like people will try and try and try to see if the old us is still inside there somewhere.But that person is gone.This is a new you.Now keep showing em the new you.

And as for some people,we might never get their approval,but heck,I will take skinny any day over that!

[jac1970 39]

Jac1970.

The less we react to it' date='the faster they get tired of doing this.Laugh about it!It feels like people will try and try and try to see if the old us is still inside there somewhere.But that person is gone.This is a new you.Now keep showing em the new you.

And as for some people,we might never get their approval,but heck,I will take skinny any day over that![/quote']

We don't even live in the same state and I don't need her approval. It just pisses me off that when I was there she complained about my weight, then got mad when I didn't eat Breakfast, then we went out to lunch or dinner every day for 5 days. It's a good thing we don't live close. She doesn't know I'm having surgery and I'm not telling her.

[desertmom 297]

Hi

A little tip for restaurant eating when you've been sleeved.I know they say dont drink before a meal but I could in 10 months not figure out why I lose so much weight when on holiday staying in hotels and eating out.At home I can always eat bigger portions.Yesterday I figured it out.

I always have a cappucino before I eat when we eat out.Seeing as that I cannot drink with food or after food, I have it before my food.It use to frustrate me that I couldnt eat more than 5 bites when I am in public.But I never drink before I eat at home and this is the only thing that is different.

I totally love eating out and have joked with my family that if my weight loss ever slowed down I would leave them to stay in a hotel until I get to goal.Love feeling full so quickly and love losing so much weight while eating at all my favourite places.

Ps.often critisism like that got us to a place of feeling defeated about this issue at quite a young age.Dont tell her if you dont want to.She will freak if she sees how little you eat in future though..lol

[windycitymom 60]

Amytug,

What a fantastic post. I want to thank the you for having the courage to post.

I am 11 mo out and dealt with binge eating most of my life. I have been a binge eater all my life. It was my way of coping wtih stress, lonliness, sadness, rejection, happiness and boredom. I am learning new ways to deal with those emotions and sometimes to actually just feel them and validate them. This is a learning process and the sleeve has afforded me a great environment and opportunity to learn more about myself. I can't say that I am cured but I can say that I am feeling more confident and more aware of my feelings which has me feel like a stronger person because of this learning. I have been meeting wth a psych in order to help me accomplish this. If you know you are a binge eater, i would highly recommend this.

I don't know that I'll ever be cured of that underlying desire to run to food for my coping mechanism but I sure can tell you that at this stage I can't binge too much. I can however binge a little so I must restrain or I'll put on weight. Grazing is the next "step down" for me. I need to be very concious to not do it and I am successful roughly 95% of the time. The difference is that after I eat for emotional reasons now, I can dust myself off and go to the gym but I dont' reel in guilt for weeks afterwards and continue to overeat in order to numb out the guilty feeling.

Good luch on your journey. Please keep us all posted!

We all eat to fill a hole of some sort whether we binge or graze and the process of not being able to binge has really forced me to understand that hole a little bit better. I would stress to you that now is an opporunity to learn more about yourself and that either before surgery or just after (I've been in counseling since I was post op). When I went for surgery I was lower BMI but felt equally out of control and my doctor told me that he "could operate on my stomach but not on my brain". That has really stuck with me.

Mechanically, the sleeve has forced me to slow down and look at my feelings. It's not always pretty but it must be done. I am only begining on my journey and learning so much. We all have a special lesson to learn (especially if you are a binge eater) because what we put into our bodies is so tied into how we feel about ourselves.

Love your body and love your mind.

From a practical standpoint, i can tell you that I couldn't previously binge even if I wanted to. It's really only in the last month or so that my sleeve can handle more. My doc only took out 80% of my stomach since I was already lower BMI. I am so happy I had my surgery since it has really afforded me the forced opportunity to learn more about myself and how I cope with feelings and stress.

[windycitymom 60]

Amytug,

What a fantastic post. I want to thank the you for having the courage to post.

I am 11 mo out and dealt with binge eating most of my life. I have been a binge eater all my life. It was my way of coping wtih stress, lonliness, sadness, rejection, happiness and boredom. I am learning new ways to deal with those emotions and sometimes to actually just feel them and validate them. This is a learning process and the sleeve has afforded me a great environment and opportunity to learn more about myself. I can't say that I am cured but I can say that I am feeling more confident and more aware of my feelings which has me feel like a stronger person because of this learning. I have been meeting wth a psych in order to help me accomplish this. If you know you are a binge eater, i would highly recommend this.

I don't know that I'll ever be cured of that underlying desire to run to food for my coping mechanism but I sure can tell you that at this stage I can't binge too much. I can however binge a little so I must restrain or I'll put on weight. Grazing is the next "step down" for me. I need to be very concious to not do it and I am successful roughly 95% of the time. The difference is that after I eat for emotional reasons now, I can dust myself off and go to the gym but I dont' reel in guilt for weeks afterwards and continue to overeat in order to numb out the guilty feeling.

Good luch on your journey. Please keep us all posted!

We all eat to fill a hole of some sort whether we binge or graze and the process of not being able to binge has really forced me to understand that hole a little bit better. I would stress to you that now is an opporunity to learn more about yourself and that either before surgery or just after (I've been in counseling since I was post op). When I went for surgery I was lower BMI but felt equally out of control and my doctor told me that he "could operate on my stomach but not on my brain". That has really stuck with me.

Mechanically, the sleeve has forced me to slow down and look at my feelings. It's not always pretty but it must be done. I am only begining on my journey and learning so much. We all have a special lesson to learn (especially if you are a binge eater) because what we put into our bodies is so tied into how we feel about ourselves.

Love your body and love your mind.

From a practical standpoint, i can tell you that I couldn't previously binge even if I wanted to. It's really only in the last month or so that my sleeve can handle more. My doc only took out 80% of my stomach since I was already lower BMI. I am so happy I had my surgery since it has really afforded me the forced opportunity to learn more about myself and how I cope with feelings and stress.

Basically all that just to say that the surgery is not a cure but an opportunity.

[GeauxForIt 659]

Well, I had to travel for work these past few days. I *thought* I was looking pretty good in my wrap dress and boots.

Until I saw a picture. OMG...I've got a LONG way to go... {HEAVING SIGH}

[Sadlers1999 169]

Well' date=' I had to travel for work these past few days. I *thought* I was looking pretty good in my wrap dress and boots.

Until I saw a picture. OMG...I've got a LONG way to go... {HEAVING SIGH}[/quote']

I'm sure you are your worst critic. Based on your previous posts, you have accomplished a lot. Remind yourself of that!

[clk 3,519]

I'm noticing an upsurge in binge and compulsive overeating threads so I thought I'd bump this up so it's visible again.

How is everyone coping lately? I know that for me, at least, there was no overnight solution. Even now, in times of stress it is easy to fall back on the habits I had for most of my life, rather than the ones I've newly built in the last two years.

I hope everyone is doing okay, and that we'll see some more contributions to this thread. It's kind of the elephant in the room - talking about disordered eating, that is. We focus on our surgery, the scales, the counting calories, achieving goal, getting to the gym, etc. but so many of us completely disregard this very obvious issue in our lives with the hopes that it will just resolve on it's own post op.

~Cheri

[ShanRN 58]

I'm glad you bumped this thread up. I definitely needed to read it First step is admitting you have a problem, right?

Also, Cheri.....I love reading your posts! It's encouraging to read the thoughts of someone that's had a few years dealing with all this. It gives me a light at the end of the tunnel on those nights when this whole thing feels overwhelming.

[desertmom 297]

Hi Cheri,

Funny you should bump it today! Tonight I actually sat in front of the tv while eating my dinner.3oz of turkey breast strips.I wasnt very mindful but boy does my sleeve have my attention now! i am in pain.I never,ever finish the 3oz's but didnt think tonight and finished it.IT IS TO MUCH! It is just half an ounce more than what I usually eat and I am suffering!

So,if any of you feel like bingeing,try solid Proteins,that should teach you a lesson,like I am learning now!

[Nicolanz 1,484]

Yesterday was horrible! I am PMSing and I think my sleeve relaxes or something during that TOM! I grazed all day and was able to eat more than usual. Today is a new day!

[GeauxForIt 659]

I'm questioning my decision to take the scale out of the house. I feel like I've either stalled or I'm losing veeeerrry slooooowly. No changes in my clothes for a couple of weeks now.

I had DH take the scale out at about 2 weeks post-op bc I was obsessing. Now I only weigh at doctor's appointments which have been every 6 weeks.

My concern is that I may need to change something in my routine if I've stalled but I won't know!

Thoughts?