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I've been watching Once Upon a Time, and they talk alot about true love. I've experienced teenage love, but my boyfriend cheated on me several times. I ended up being a teenage mom also. I've moved away and have been single for about 10yrs. I'm 34 now, and wonder if I'll ever find true love. I'm hoping that once I have the sleeve, I'll lose weight and be more "desirable." Though, I really want someone to love me for me, thick or thin? Where are guys out there like that, if any? Tired of being single.

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I've been watching Once Upon a Time, and they talk alot about true love. I've experienced teenage love, but my boyfriend cheated on me several times. I ended up being a teenage mom also. I've moved away and have been single for about 10yrs. I'm 34 now, and wonder if I'll ever find true love. I'm hoping that once I have the sleeve, I'll lose weight and be more "desirable." Though, I really want someone to love me for me, thick or thin? Where are guys out there like that, if any? Tired of being single.

When I say "desirable" I mean physically. I'm cute, and have a great personality. I'm just fat. :(

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I found my soulmate. True love is out there.

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Can't wait til I found it either

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True love may be possible, but realistically it may not. The first thing you have to do is be happen with yourself. Just because you are fat, doesn't mean you are not "desirable" you have to be confident and go out there and stun the world. What have you been doing to find your mate? Do you go out? Online dating?

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No one else can love you if you don't love yourself. I found the love of my life when I was 468 pounds. He loves me for everything that I am and nothing that I am not. I can not wait until June 21, 2014 when I become his wife.

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True love may be possible' date=' but realistically it may not. The first thing you have to do is be happen with yourself. Just because you are fat, doesn't mean you are not "desirable" you have to be confident and go out there and stun the world. What have you been doing to find your mate? Do you go out? Online dating?[/quote']

Well, I've tried online dating with different sites and no one contacted me that I was interested in. The ones that I were interested in were not in me. I think because of my weight. I work and come home. I do go out, buy that's to shop.

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No one else can love you if you don't love yourself. I found the love of my life when I was 468 pounds. He loves me for everything that I am and nothing that I am not. I can not wait until June 21' date=' 2014 when I become his wife.[/quote']

Congratulations! I'd like to think I love myself. I mean, I'm not happy with my weight, but not sure what else I can do.

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I found my soulmate. True love is out there.

Aww. I hope so for me too.

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There are men out there interested in plus size women, believe me this I know. What online sites did you go on? There are dating sites dedicated to plus size women and their admirers. Did you post multiple photos? What about your profile message? Feel free to email me, I could provide some pointers. :)

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There are men out there interested in plus size women' date=' believe me this I know. What online sites did you go on? There are dating sites dedicated to plus size women and their admirers. Did you post multiple photos? What about your profile message? Feel free to email me, I could provide some pointers. :)[/quote']

I did several: interracial match, match.com, eharmony, Christian mingle, plenty of fish, and the other free one, can't remember the name. Someone told me about plus size dating sites. The only thing about that is that I don't want a chubby chaser. I want someone to love me for me. Any tips you have feel free to private message me. :) I'm open to suggestion. Thanks.

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When I say "desirable" I mean physically. I'm cute, and have a great personality. I'm just fat. :(

Girl you cracked me up. I feel the same way. I am married but its very rocky so i often wonder if i will

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Fishy, I didn't find them physically or intellectually attractive. In addition, there were some with incomplete profiles or seemed suspect. One guy had a spelling issue. I'm educated, and that was a pet peeve of mine. One guy's photo looked as if he was in his mom's basement. I just didn't get contacted by someone I felt was interested in getting to know me for me, and was on my level intellectually.

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Girl you cracked me up. I feel the same way. I am married but its very rocky so i often wonder if i will

LOL. I just laughed reading my quote. I'm just being honest.

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I found it. This one is stuck with me- and I'm stuck with him. Hell- his mom told me even if we split up- she's claiming me. I got married and divorced young. I was in love with the idea of being in love. Now- I can't imagine my life without who I am with now. We compliment each other in every aspect- and have the best communication I could ever ask for. And I met him at my highest weight. He loves me for me- not for my awesome body.. (why oh why is there not a sarcasm font?!). You will find someone when you least expect it!

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