Isolation

[NevadaDave 66]

Hi all,

I am 3 weeks out, and I knew I would be a new sleever at Christmas. I got myself psychology prepared for not eating any holiday treats, and I am not having any problems with that, I could care less about food now. but what I am having trouble with is being home by myself because all of the holiday event revolve around big feasts. Both I and my friends are uncomfortable to have me around. This is something I didn't anticipate. Is there any clues from people that faced this kind of thing before.

Thanks

[AussieLady 521]

I had some parties to go to soon after I got my sleeve and I felt more comfortable, and I think others did too if I did this:- if it's a standing party I would put Water in a wine glass and just sip from this all evening. As long as you have something in your hand people don't seem to worry about you not eating. If it's a sit down meal, still have the wine glas and water, put a little bit if food on your plate and push it round a little. It's weird but it seemed to work.

[*Dean* 1,594]

All of the above.

I think that is one of the 'shifts' we have to make in our thinking. Social functions / gatherings, weather they're for Xmas or not, aren't about food - believe it or not (I know, I was shocked too )

They're about catching up and spending time with people. Focus more on the social part of the get together, not the consuming part.

You will find it liberating to go to an event and being able to focus on catching up with people. I know for me, previously at events like this I was constantly pre occupied with what I could eat. I didn't even realise how pre occupied I was with food until post sleeve.

Go with what AussieLady said. Enjoy family and friends this Xmas.

Good luck,

Deano

[Johnboy996 11]

I went to my company x-mas party last night, and did not drink any alcohol while everyone else did. I found it very amusing to watch everyone else drink and make asses of themselve. Just have to find the humor in it all. LOL