Do I tell?

[MoniqueA97 6]

I am going through the process now and hope to have VSG in late Feb or early March. I am a Very Private person. I'm not sure whether or not I want to tell my supervisor. ..I work with mostly women in a small office.

Also, most of my family lives in another state and I plan on telling my mom and sister about my surgery but I don't want to tell my In-Laws. My mother in law is very nosey and I know if I told her my business would be all out in the street. I do rely on my in-laws to watch many small children sometimes but I'm quite sure I don't want her to know about my surgery so I will rely heavily on my husband.

Just wanted to get your opinions on whether or not to disclose. I'm not ashamed and I'm very excited about my future new life but it's MY life and I don't see the need to HAVE to share unless its on my terms.

Thoughts? ??

[tinarho 29]

I would tell them. You can't believe they won't notice your rapid weight loss. If you see them regularly then tell. It's only a matter of time. Don't be ashamed, be proud that your taking YOUR life into your hands.,

[cataro 39]

No one knows your family and your situation better than you do. If you feel like telling them would be a mistake, then it probably is. There are some people in my family I have chosen to tell, and others I have not. This is my personal journey, and I only want positive people involved.

[MinaT 669]

I had a hernia repair and a duodenal polyp removed and scar tissue removed during surgery. This is true, this is also what I told everyone. My parents and husband and son know that I also had the sleeve. I worked very hard pre-op and lost 10 pounds a month during the pre approval phase. By the time I had surgery and afterwards, everyone was used to the fact that I was shrinking.

You are on a high Protein, low carb diet, if you are following the plan now by charting your food, Water, and doing what you are suppose to be doing pre-surgery, there is no reason you have to tell anyone you do not want to tell. There's a good chance you will find out before surgery that you will also have a hernia repaired. It seems to me that a lot of us end up having it. Most people find out during the pre-op that there is a hernia and that gets taken care of during surgery.

The truth doesn't always set you free, sometimes the truth allows others to be judgmental and causes too much stress. You do what makes you feel comfortable.

[ascooke 50]

One thing to consider is what if something does go wrong and your hospital stay is longer, then you may have to explain in order to get your responsibiklities covered. But it i your business so its your choice.

[katsmeow 70]

It's your business. I haven't told a lot of people because I don't want gossip. It's my business. I'm working hard with my diet. You have to do what's best for you.

[thenewme@32 40]

I had my surgery early November. I told my friends an family. One of my friend stop talking to me. But I dnt give a shift! Being depressed is nt a good thing! I worked hard at pre op and self pay through the father up above. So am gonna flaunt every pound of it. Cause this is the newme@32!!!