Babysteppin 165 Posted December 11, 2012 I know without a doubt that I want this surgery, and I've been mulling it over for looong enough to know that I'm making an informed decision. But for the life of me I am SO scared to go through with it!! During the whole pre-surgery process I just haven't been able to shake the underlying fear...and I can't help but worry I'll chicken out at the last minute. I think it's even been making me procrastinate on doing the final preparation, which is losing the pre-op weight...I mean, it's only 12lbs which I could totally shed in a heartbeat because of my high starting weight. Yet the only way the surgeon will give me a date is to do it. Can anyone else relate, about wanting the surgery completely, yet being completely afraid to go through with it at the same time?? Any fellow procrastinators or self-saboteurs out there? :ph34r: Eeek, don't know how to just get over it and do this thing! 1 minimii reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pdb 1 Posted December 11, 2012 I am right there with you. However, I started my liquid diet and lost 5 lbs the first day. I am down 12.2 lbs so far. This is day 7 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
pdb 1 Posted December 11, 2012 Once you see the weight begin to come off its easier. My biggest fear is to go thru with it also. Its got to be a normal fear right?? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReduceReuseRecycle-Me! 119 Posted December 11, 2012 Who isn't scared?! Can you do it alone? I've sabotaged my life away and now, at 53, my kids are older and we raised my life insurance Hopefully nothing bad happens, it's a win/win. 2 Ballermom and Velena reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
imworthit 156 Posted December 11, 2012 U sound like me 2 mons ago!! I was sleeved 10/18 scared shitless!!! I have zero regrets now:-) down 50 pounds including pre op diet, love getting dressed for work now and loving life!!! Just do it:-) 3 Velena, minimii and ladyhummingbird reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DivineMissM 60 Posted December 11, 2012 I was nervous too!! And I work in an operating room, so I know the drill!! But I lost 50 lbs preop, and another 20 Postop for a total of 70!!! Best thing I ever did! food and I had this long term relationship that just wasn't working for me anymore! We had to break up!!! I got game, now!!! 4 ladyhummingbird, erp, Paigers and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Babysteppin 165 Posted December 11, 2012 Thanks everyone. For starters, it's a relief to know that my fears are normal and that others have been there and it didn't stop them from going for it in the end. Maybe another one of my problems is that I've been comparing myself too much to people who've been confident and seemingly "fear-free" during the whole process, thinking: "Why can't I be like that? Does it mean maybe I'm not cut out for this because I'm freaking out this much?" Whatever. I think maybe I just need people to remind me over and OVER again about how good this will be if only I take the chance! You guys are great, thank you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
bakawaka 59 Posted December 11, 2012 I know without a doubt that I want this surgery' date=' and I've been mulling it over for looong enough to know that I'm making an informed decision. But for the life of me I am SO scared to go through with it!! During the whole pre-surgery process I just haven't been able to shake the underlying fear...and I can't help but worry I'll chicken out at the last minute. I think it's even been making me procrastinate on doing the final preparation, which is losing the pre-op weight...I mean, it's only 12lbs which I could totally shed in a heartbeat because of my high starting weight. Yet the only way the surgeon will give me a date is to do it. Can anyone else relate, about wanting the surgery completely, yet being completely afraid to go through with it at the same time?? Any fellow procrastinators or self-saboteurs out there? <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/ph34r.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':ph34r:' /> Eeek, don't know how to just get over it and do this thing![/quote'] I vomited all the way to the hospital after fear and then after surgery wondered why. It was my very first surgery - I think that I now would be less scared of surgery. My suggestion is to take deep breaths and focus on a good outcome to work through the fear. My surgical nurse told me it would be abnormal NOT to be nervous. We are human. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BANANA PANTS! 60 Posted December 11, 2012 Thanks for these posts. I am really scared too - and I feel silly for being so scared. I'm not really superstitious, but literally minutes after I got the call telling me I was approved and getting a surgery date, there was an e-mail to hospital leadership (I work in a hospital) that we now stock bariatric body bags! Seriously???? Anyway - it feels good to confess this fear. I am having surgery in less than a week now and the fear and excitement are both sort of messing with my mind! 1 ladyhummingbird reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReduceReuseRecycle-Me! 119 Posted December 11, 2012 banana PANTS!" data-cite="BANANA PANTS!" data-ipsquote-timestamp="1355262572" data-ipsquote-contentapp="forums" data-ipsquote-contenttype="forums" data-ipsquote-contentid="232195" data-ipsquote-contentclass="forums_Topic"> Thanks for these posts. I am really scared too - and I feel silly for being so scared. I'm not really superstitious, but literally minutes after I got the call telling me I was approved and getting a surgery date, there was an e-mail to hospital leadership (I work in a hospital) that we now stock bariatric body bags! Seriously???? Anyway - it feels good to confess this fear. I am having surgery in less than a week now and the fear and excitement are both sort of messing with my mind! Maybe they mean bariatric body parts! You know, stomaches, intestine pieces, etc. 1 ladyhummingbird reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
shuhnaynuh 142 Posted December 11, 2012 I boohoo'd my way all the way into the OR... My mind was a crazy mess so I completely understand where you're coming from... I can't offer any advice to you other than I worried myself to death for nothing, I'm now 3 months out and couldn't be happier! 3 BANANA PANTS!, Babysteppin and ladyhummingbird reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mezanne1401 190 Posted December 11, 2012 Have you ever had any surgery under general anesthesia at all??? I had a kidney stone removed under general 2 years ago and I was TERRIFIED!!!! They had to give me a Xanax to calm down. I threatened to leave against orders and everything. I was really being a horse's butt! But, when I was scheduled for my sleeve, I wasn't nervous or scared at all. I never had fear at all over this surgery and it is a big one!!! I was surprisingly calm. I realized I was scared of the unknown from anesthesia. Will it hurt? Will I really not feel anything when I'm under? Will I wake up? Will I remember anything? Once I had experienced it with my stone removal, it was a piece of cake. If you haven't had surgery before, then I totally understand. If you have had surgery, then just keep reminding yourself who you are doing this for and why! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ReduceReuseRecycle-Me! 119 Posted December 11, 2012 banana PANTS!" data-cite="BANANA PANTS!" data-ipsquote-timestamp="1355262572" data-ipsquote-contentapp="forums" data-ipsquote-contenttype="forums" data-ipsquote-contentid="232195" data-ipsquote-contentclass="forums_Topic"> Thanks for these posts. I am really scared too - and I feel silly for being so scared. I'm not really superstitious, but literally minutes after I got the call telling me I was approved and getting a surgery date, there was an e-mail to hospital leadership (I work in a hospital) that we now stock bariatric body bags! Seriously???? Anyway - it feels good to confess this fear. I am having surgery in less than a week now and the fear and excitement are both sort of messing with my mind! OMG, my husband just got home from work and I was telling him about your post about bariatric body bags, and here's me, duh, I said, "What would be the difference between bariatric body bags and regular patient body bags?" My husband, "Size." 1 BANANA PANTS! reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
newgirltx 41 Posted December 11, 2012 Baby, Nerves are so normal. That just goes to show that you are aware of the reality of situation and that u care about urself. But at least for me, staying fat has been partly out of fear. I don't even know what I am scared of half the time but I was so tired of it holding me back that I just had to grab onto everyone around me and let their strength pull me through. U will be ok. Trust that there is something watching over u and try to find a quiet safe place where u can calm ur soul. 3 ReduceReuseRecycle-Me!, ladyhummingbird and Babysteppin reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
msmomrules 2 Posted December 12, 2012 All the time I spent worrying about getting approved and now approved hand am so scared. What if I get sick like some do? I am also so weak and sick from the pre op shakes so please don't mind me Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
