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My husband and I are having surgery on 12/19. Thank God we are doing it together so there are no issues in our home. Our daughter is sneaking around with her meals so we don't see her eat. Excited and nervous but the forum has been a lifeline. So encouraged!

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My husband and I are having surgery on 12/19. Thank God we are doing it together so there are no issues in our home. Our daughter is sneaking around with her meals so we don't see her eat. Excited and nervous but the forum has been a lifeline. So encouraged!

That is awesome!!!! It has really helped me out as well. You can really find some encouraging people on here to help you along this journey.

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I cook dinner for my son and hubby every night....I can fix from fried pork chops to fried fish and fries.....spaghetti and garlic bread, oven fried wings and all...It doesn't bother me as much as I thought......I know they didn't choose this, I did. My hubby is 6ft and 170....he's gained 9lbs in over 20 years....My son is active so I like to feed him a good meal too....If I don't cook, they will go out to eat and I don't want them doing that....I cook with olive oil and coconut oil....I use wheat noodles and I try to be a bit healthier than McDonalds...not that it makes a huge difference but it does kind of.

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I am reading this with my 10 year old son eating a big bag of Doritos(my favorite!!) right next to me!! I am on day 6 of pre-op. They smell AWESOME!!!

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Everyone is different....I did 2 Protein shakes during the day and had a Churches chicken Thigh and a pepper for dinner EVERY SINGLE DAY leading up to my surgery to include the night before....Well, the night before I had 2.....Don't kill yourself...I would have been screwed if they told me NOTHING but Protein Shakes....

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Girl...just hang on..my husband did the same thing to me..thank God I'm 11 weeks out now.he would fry porkchops..chicken..my mom even kept bragging about potato salad and fried fish!!!!. I wanted to scream..but some don't understand that its torture..lol..I told hubby flat out..close my room door please. Or please don't eat in front of me..after 3 or so times he finally got it..lol be strong girlie u can do it.. Devil egg salad saved my life during mushies made with boiled egg yolk, lite mayo, a lil relish and a lil seasoning..love ya

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No one who hasn't been through this will ever understand. There's a certain obliviousness that you will probably have to address. Give them a calm, logical and reasonable explanation if it bothers you to have them eat in front of you.

Pre op it Kinda bothered me - just because I was hungry. Post op, it didn't bother me at all.

If it is bothering you post op, ask yourself why.

It's very important to get yourself in the mindset that food is for survival- not entertainment and comfort.

That being said. I enjoy food more now than ever before. It's easy to enjoy now because I can't overdo it and there's no guilt.

You can get there too!

Hubbies tend to need some direct and complete instruction though :)

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