Rileysmama 6 Posted December 7, 2012 So im 1 week out from surgery and were at the mall taking my daughter to get santa pics as soon as we enter the mall my husband says hes starving, wtf!!! Why couldn't he have made something before we left, so now im sitting in the food court hating life watching everyone shove down delicious food I hate him right now 1 Jenipher reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SerendipityHappens 1,594 Posted December 7, 2012 I hate them too. 1 ShouldBlittler reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
delta_girl 931 Posted December 7, 2012 It's an emotional time. Casting blame won't make anything better. You signed on for a life change, which also includes what goes on in your head. The only behaviors and thoughts you can control are your own. Your choice for vsg and changes since may have been stressful for your husband as well. 10 LeahMae, Butterthebean, does not matter and 7 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PrincipalsOffice 16 Posted December 7, 2012 I have to say, my hubby has been so supportive and asks every meal if I'd prefer he eat elsewhere. For me, I figure if I'm ever going to have a normal relationship with food, I can't expect others to hide. It's not been easy but I'm hopeful. But in general, I agree husbands can be butt heads! 5 babywools, asherje, kmwheel and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
PdxMan 4,292 Posted December 7, 2012 Wow ** EDIT ** I love how women believe men think the same way they do. When we don't, we're insensitive asses. Hmmm ... 2 Butterthebean and rmeofone reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
abetterme4.2 268 Posted December 7, 2012 Lol. I'm only laughing because you called him an ass. Not the situation. 1 Jenipher reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nicolanz 1,484 Posted December 7, 2012 I would agree with the others if you were further along but one week out?! He should be more considerate! Your feelings are totally valid! Next time you both leave the house let him know your not comfortable watching him eat at a restaurant! 1 Jenipher reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tink22-sleeve 528 Posted December 7, 2012 Men are clueless! Talk to him about it. Walk away and meet him in a store. But overall, men suck! LOL 1 chosen1 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Threetimesacharm 1,400 Posted December 7, 2012 Wow, I wouldn't have stayed to eat with him either. I would have gone shopping with my daughter and bought myself a lovely size smaller top, on his credit card! 10 Territravel, Lisa'slosinit, Barisaxylady and 7 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
amytug 996 Posted December 7, 2012 Yeah, that was kindof insensitive. Sigh I think my husband would do the same. 2 FatFreeMe and Jenipher reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JaspersGirl 147 Posted December 8, 2012 My husband did something similar, we want to Target 2 weeks post op And he and my daughter were hungry and he wanted to go to the Chinese buffet, so he decided to drop me off home alone and eat with my daughter! He didn't tell me where they were going, he said they'll be back. Then when I called him I ask what's taking so long he said they were out to dinner. So I cried! I cried cause I got excluded! I didn't crave food not was I sad to sit there and watch people eat but the fact that now I was going to be excluded! After the he realized he effed up but too late! 2 HoosierGirl and kmwheel reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
njsleeve 142 Posted December 8, 2012 So im 1 week out from surgery and were at the mall taking my daughter to get santa pics as soon as we enter the mall my husband says hes starving' date=' wtf!!! Why couldn't he have made something before we left, so now im sitting in the food court hating life watching everyone shove down delicious food I hate him right now[/quote']I felt the same way when I came out of surgery not able to eat good food and everyone around me was eating but after a while now I'm 6 months out I don't give a **** about food I've lost 115 pounds that makes up for it. It will get easier as time goes on Sent from my SPH-L710 using VST 8 TallGirl300, amytug, Tink22-sleeve and 5 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
njsleeve 142 Posted December 8, 2012 [ATTACH]6997[/ATTACH] Sent from my SPH-L710 using VST 4 Readyforthisjourney-Jen, iegal, ATX Girl and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SouthernSleever 228 Posted December 8, 2012 I think it's probably a wrong idea to get it stuck in your head that everyone's life revolves around your WLS. He could say the same thing about the out of pocket money, if any, you paid. Having to do extra house hold chores that you can't do while you are recovering and taking care of you/kids if you are sick out. It does suck, don't get me wrong, but this is your journey. 8 TallGirl300, JoJo57, Shergirl and 5 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Territravel 217 Posted December 8, 2012 I agree, it sucks when your family and friends, are eating the things we cant. Some may be sensitive to OUR issues, some will not. Let's be honest, food is the reason we're all in this boat. We have to remember this is Our journey to succeed, or fail falls entirely on our shoulders...I like Amazon 13 suggestion, leave them in the food court, and go shopping, on him of course!. 1 ATX Girl reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites