Insensitive Doctor :(

[Fair2bslimLady 72]

Well went to my apt today and met with my dr and I have gained 3 pounds and he scolded me for about 30 minutes and he was brutal which I can understand. But I felt mad and sad because he scolded me like a fat kid that can’t stop eating cake. He said that he had other surgeries dealing with cancer and my surgery was elective and I just wish I could tell him to go fu(( off and just forget the whole thing but I want this surgery and I know I need to do my part, but I want to tell him that he is insensitive and my wls is not a nose job.

[connie3 43]

Got my ass chewed by my surgeon as well. He was upset that I hadn't lost any weight in my pre op class. He put me on a 2 week preop diet and I've lost 10 lbs. Today is my surgery. I'm hoping 10 lbs is enough. :/

Can you possibly ask for a different surgeon?

[Fair2bslimLady 72]

Thank you Connie3, nope I cant Im having it done at a military hospital and the other person is not here so its either this Ahole or go out and my insurance doesnt cover it out and the only thing left is my Band and bypass

[gmanbat 5,889]

Some people's idea of "tough love" is more self-serving than helpful. Sometimes they work out their own issues at your expense. Being brow beaten and demeaned for gaining weight is something you've done to yourself as well as receiving it from other "tough lovers" and afforded you no remedy but probably emotionally drove you deeper into the cycle of fattening.

WLS patients obviously have a problem with gaining weight. A doctor should not be disappointed and frustrated as if it is surprising. Your observation of his insensitivity is correct as far as I am concerned.

That being said, write it off and forge ahead. If he is an otherwise competent doctor knuckle down and get through this. Follow his advise and conquer yourself and your soon to be history excess fat. You can do it...take that to the bank!

[deltadawn817 106]

this is hard I would have just told him I feel like I have a 3lb crap in my since I haven't pooed in days.

[Geminidrive 389]

You know you have a voice, either you chose to be a victim or volunteer. You didn't like what he said, then you speak up. This could also be his bedside manner, some doctors have it some don't and sometimes those hardnosed doctors can be better for us, they drill home that point to make us mad and we remember those words. Just take this as a lesson learned and hopefully next visit you will have something to cheer about. Good luck!

[Fair2bslimLady 72]

thank you guys, he actually made me want a drink he just was so unreal, I understand that I need to hear that but at the same time dont tell me that my wls is nothing compare to your to do list because its elective. I hope his wife gains 250 pounds,

[gmanbat 5,889]

I had a urologist who was the one who informed me of my prostate cancer in 2009. He was extremely grave in demeanor as he told me the news of my positive biopsy results. I am one of those odd ducks who believes that God alone is in charge of my check-out day which is more of a graduation to a better life anyway. As a result I did no emotional collapsing. He apparently thought I just didn't understand and continued to hammer about my imminent doom. Neither I nor my loving and equally God-believing wife were ruffled which seemed to frustrate him.

On subsequent visits he put on his gloom face and tried to get me on the train of abject misery which I always refused to board. Even when my treatment was going well he would assure me that cancer would win in the end. All he needed was pom-poms and a big C on his sweater. He emphasized to me that the treatments were virtually useless and that the extra time afforded by them would be minimal. It made me scratch my head trying to figure out why he thought my remaining time would be better used by being sorrowful.

I have already beaten the doomsday clock he set and if my birthday of December 21 of this year is not the end of the world as predicted by the Mayans I will sit in my new strong, healthy body by my Florida pool with my beautiful, slim Roux-N-Y wife and have a toast to my Ohio urologist. May his life turn out as happy as mine.