Marquel 31 Posted November 26, 2012 So I am self-pay and I'm feeling really guilty for draining our savings account for me to have this surgery. My husband seems supportive and just wants me to be happy. But I just feel so selfish!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LouiseC 1,031 Posted November 26, 2012 I have felt this way. I have been trying to talk my husband into upgrading his boat just so I don't feel as though I have profited in some way. It is weird, I know he is so supportive and behind me 100% but I still got moments where I think "wow, did we really spend all that money on me?" I don't regret the surgery, not for a nano second, but I do struggle with it at times. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
*Dean* 1,594 Posted November 26, 2012 You can't put a price on your health ladies. Your partners' aren't worrying about it, so you should treat it a bit like a compliment - thank them for their support 3 Happy2BSleeved, nursing38 and Smiley79 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ozeedonkee 145 Posted November 26, 2012 Turn it around - if he was in your situation would you be supportive of his having a VSG (or any other life saving operation) even though it would use your savings? If you would, then understand he feels the same way, accept it, let go of the guilt, and go for it 3 Smiley79, *Dean* and nursing38 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
ByeByefatgirl. 82 Posted November 26, 2012 Its just money guys! You shouldn't feel guilty. You can always save again. If u managed to save that much money im sure you can do it again don't worry be happy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jesser 295 Posted November 26, 2012 Just think of all the money you will save in food over a year! I know I probably spend as much as what the surgery is going to cost eating out at restaurants and stuff associated with food. 3 Changing39, Lifechanging<3 and Biellita165 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marquel 31 Posted November 26, 2012 Thank you guys... It's so true and I am so happy! I will just do what he wants and that's just be happy 1 Changing39 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites