So Flipping Miserable

[sleeve_sister 110]

I still can't kick this funk of not being able to eat what I want. I know I should be happy that I have restriction and am losing weight and I am BUT I still find myself wanting to have what will taste good and not being able to fill the void of the "addiction" is really getting me down. I don't know if its just me or if its normal? I'm going to my shrink tomorrow so ill talk to him about it but dang when does it stop?!? Ill be 6 wks po on Tuesday.

[GeauxForIt 659]

I'm 6 weeks post-op tomorrow and I'm struggling with the same feelings. Some days I'm actually ANGRY that I can't eat a big, comforting meal when I feel like it! I know that's ridiculous and I'm so grateful that I was able to have this surgery, but the mental struggle is rough for me right now, too.

[Giselle3264 175]

I agree the mental struggle is difficult in the early weeks. As time goes on and the pounds go off, I remember THE priority. Contrary to what people want to think, there can only be one #1 priority. For me it's getting this weight off. Period. As far as comfort and addiction, I've had to find substitutes, something I couldn't....no, didn't.... do before. The trick is to find constructive substitutes like crafts, volunteer work, learning a new language, exercise. It's time to find the one(s) that works for you. Let the old go and enjoy the new you.

[Strangefruit 179]

I'm pulling up a chair to wait for the advice you get... I am five weeks post op and still struggle with those feelings...

[sleeve_sister 110]

Glad to hear I'm not alone. Part of my problem too is that I moved 1800 miles from my friends and family in July and I'm soooo bored and have not met anyone yet. I'm going to an Overeaters Anonymous meeting Wednesday and hoping that will help too. I just don't want to exchange one addiction for another and I can definitely see how that would happen.

[lollyfidy1965 402]

The thing that helped me most, in coming to terms with the head noise when I started making dramatic changes to my approach to food, was reading "The End of Overeating." I highly recommend it (and have mentioned it in many posts on this site). It clearly describes exactly why we have obsessive thoughts about foods....this truly is an addiction...no need to put it in quotation marks! The reality described in the book made me SO angry...and made it much easier to make, and stick with, the behavior changes I need to make, in order to be successful in my post-surgical weight loss journey!

I wish you the best

Laura

[Fiddleman 4,376]

I still can't kick this funk of not being able to eat what I want. I know I should be happy that I have restriction and am losing weight and I am BUT I still find myself wanting to have what will taste good and not being able to fill the void of the "addiction" is really getting me down. I don't know if its just me or if its normal? I'm going to my shrink tomorrow so ill talk to him about it but dang when does it stop?!? Ill be 6 wks po on Tuesday.

If you are looking for just tastes, I am sure there is nothing wrong with licking or chewing something. Sometimes even smelling something you miss will satisfy you. Then again, maybe it will trigger even more old habits. These suggestions are only given if they are used in moderation and if you feel like it is making the problem worse then stop. I didn't really have any addictions to food that followed me into post sleeve, so I consider myself fortunate.

[Lisa's Hope 421]

I remember feeling that way. I still do sometimes but it definitely gets better. After month 3 or 4 you will learn to love what you are eating. Now is too soon and your body still craves the bad stuff but you will soon be craving the good food if you keep the other out of your body. Believe me, it does get easier! Just keep your eye on the end result!!

[carstanger 346]

Looking forward to some real food!! Tomorrow I am 2 weeks out and still on full Protein liquids for at least one more week. Trying to figure out how to get all the protein and liquids in...Seem to do one or the other. On far fewer meds at this point so that is encouraging!!!

[sleeve_sister 110]

The thing that helped me most' date=' in coming to terms with the head noise when I started making dramatic changes to my approach to food, was reading "The End of Overeating." I highly recommend it (and have mentioned it in many posts on this site). It clearly describes exactly why we have obsessive thoughts about foods....this truly is an addiction...no need to put it in quotation marks! The reality described in the book made me SO angry...and made it much easier to make, and stick with, the behavior changes I need to make, in order to be successful in my post-surgical weight loss journey!

I wish you the best

Laura[/quote']

Yes, I ordered it hoping to get it this week. Thanks again for the recommendation!

[COnative 192]

The thing that helped me most, in coming to terms with the head noise when I started making dramatic changes to my approach to food, was reading "The End of Overeating." I highly recommend it (and have mentioned it in many posts on this site). It clearly describes exactly why we have obsessive thoughts about foods....this truly is an addiction...no need to put it in quotation marks! The reality described in the book made me SO angry...and made it much easier to make, and stick with, the behavior changes I need to make, in order to be successful in my post-surgical weight loss journey!

I wish you the best

Laura

I just downloaded the book to my Kindle. Thanks!

[lollyfidy1965 402]

You're welcome, CO! I'd love to hear your thoughts, once you've read it!

[Penney 4]

Im 3 months out & struggle with it also....I'm glad to hear it gets better but this does definitely suck. I have stopped keeping triggers in the house though. Also I've ate some deserts from Thanksgiving & felt like crap (physically) so that help me not to want more. Luckily my stomach can handle just about everything but it's also a curse too.

[GeauxForIt 659]

This is how I explained it to my (slim) husband: it's as if someone is an alcoholic and you tell them, "I know you're addicted to alcohol, but you're going to have to drink it every day for the rest of your life, only it's up to you to make sure that you drink only a reasonable amount and that you keep yourself from overdoing it."

[steelergirl 135]

This is how I explained it to my (slim) husband: it's as if someone is an alcoholic and you tell them' date=' "I know you're addicted to alcohol, but you're going to have to drink it every day for the rest of your life, only it's up to you to make sure that you drink only a reasonable amount and that you keep yourself from overdoing it." [/quote']

This is PERFECTFLY explained ..