Have Your Relationships Changed?

[smithpy 117]

I was sleeved Oct 23. Just curious if your relationships with your spouse, friends and family have changed.

[Fiddleman 4,376]

If anything, my relationships with others have improved.

[smithpy 117]

If anything' date=' my relationships with others have improved.[/quote']

Is that bc of how they view you or how you view yourself?

[Fiddleman 4,376]

Is that bc of how they view you or how you view yourself?

It is probably with how I view myself. I have a much more healthy and positive outlook on life now.

[mokee 588]

I sure hope this happens to me.

[lelecox07 9]

Some improved some didn't. But for the ones who didn't its their loss not mine. Don't let others bring you down

[slojo 150]

My husband and I have ALOT more hootchie koo, lovin', wild thing, whatever you wanna call it. Sex, i'm talking about alot more sex! LOL!

[KarissaKhaos 170]

My relationships have changed a lot in a good way, since my self-esteem has improved my relationships have improved and my fiancee is all over me now

[Nicolanz 1,484]

I'm only 23 pounds down and my husband can't keep his hands off me!

[connie3 43]

I'd be lying if I said I'm not worried about my relationship with my husband after weight loss. He's not supportive of my choice to get WLS, he doesn't want to even know when I get it done. Ive been with him for 10 years and have 3 kids. I'm scared that weight loss will give me the confidence that I've lacked and that I'll stop putting up with his crap. He's not horrible, but I do feel like I put up with far more then what most women put up with.

[smithpy 117]

I'd be lying if I said I'm not worried about my relationship with my husband after weight loss. He's not supportive of my choice to get WLS' date=' he doesn't want to even know when I get it done. Ive been with him for 10 years and have 3 kids. I'm scared that weight loss will give me the confidence that I've lacked and that I'll stop putting up with his crap. He's not horrible, but I do feel like I put up with far more then what most women put up with.[/quote']

If there are problems, WLS will certainly bring them out. Continue to work on your marriage but definitely have surgery. Your health is very important. Try to reassure him that you love him but work on loving confidence now.

[CAS621 2]

If you can, go to counseling. I am a firm believer. It has saved my marriage several times. My WLS program also offers support groups and classes for family members. When we are married, our decisions effect both of us. However, you still have to put yourself first sometimes. That may be scary to our significant others but the more you can work through those feelings together, the better off you both will be. Remind him that the better you feel about yourself, the better that will be for those around you. Just remember that while you want everyone to be supportive, this is about putting yourself first for a change. Don't let yourself feel bad or guilty about that. I know I have on occasion but that's what I keep telling myself!

[lelecox07 9]

Maybe he is just scared of you having surgery done? That makes me really sad to hear because this should be a joyous thing. I couldn't have done this without the support of my husband.

[OneWritersSoul 353]

My husband kept telling me I didn't need surgery, he was against it, etc. I explained to him that I loved him and heard each and every single complaint/reason he gave but ultimately, the decision wasn't his.

The decision was for me. It was for my health. It was for my peace of mind.

About two months before the surgery we went to an appointment to talk to a reproductive endocrinologist. They told us that I'd have to lose weight before we could undergo in-vitro. My husband became my biggest cheerleader!

Sometimes people will be for you, sometimes they will be against you. The important thing is to never be your own worst enemy!

[jeepfreak 12]

My boyfriend of 17 yr paid for the surgery in Mexico including the airfare - the week before we left he started up a cyber affair with a married nasty chick & while I was in the hospital he was at the Marriott sending nude pics of himself. Needless to say we are no longer together & I got this great new body & she is draining him of his money - divorce, apartment, furniture, etc. Is so funny cause it's his loss & now she's way bigger than me. lol.