male only Advice Needed - Adult Subject Matter!

[Dogminst 11]

Hey Star I agree with O.T.R. But what I wanted to suggest is that if he did have issues with your loose skin you could always call on one of us sleeved guys that would totally understand and be very happy to get it

[SStarr2012 5]

HaHa - you guys are funny. Dog, I will fill that away for future reference.

It is great to find someone that you enjoy spending time with too though; that chemistry element as well as just enjoying being around that person, makes it all the better. so far, I have the total package going on here.

So, in all seriousness, I think we talk so much about how ugly we are on here, that we kind of lose sight to the fact that there is all sorts of ugly and crazy out there and maybe we don't look so bad by comparison to "normal". We hold ourselves to standards that the average person doesn't even meet. Here is the perspective he has shared with me - exactly echoing OTR's remarks about the low drama desire to have a good time without the games being key, but also adding that finding someone who is not obviously batshit crazy, has a fun and funny personality, can string a few sentences together, only a little overweight AND am pretty to boot and actually WANTs to well, you know - even with some loose skin I score WAY higher then many other, younger, never had WLS women out there. So, not sure that it should make me feel better that so many young women are very heavy and apparently very crazy/high drama, but so it goes.

I wouldn't say this is right for everyone, but for right now, in this moment, this sort of situation is great for me. I feel better about ... well EVERYTHING... right now. Amazing what a little human contact can do for the spirits.

[ozeedonkee 145]

That's a whole different perspective from your original post - love it! Good for you

[Jenipher 28]

Wow!! Glad things worked out for you. I think that's a tue statement about us being a lot harder on ourselves than others who haven't even had WLS. Thanks for the example of what getting back our there can be like. Encouraging!!!!

[Ballermom 803]

Wow

I'm not sleeved yet. But yea! Motivation ha!

Thanks for the encouragement of how great you can feel after the sleeve. My Hubby will be even happier for me.

Well sleeve me!

Can't wait.