Really Having A Hard Time......

[CJ's mom 28]

I dont attend any groups. Im here is Jacksonville, FL I really am thinking about attending some though, i had thought I was going to have enough support from my family and friends, lol WRONGO

I'm in Jax too! I see we have different doctors but although the support group is held at Baptist downtown anyone can come. They are once a month and a ton of people show up. They are very informative. I'm going to one tonight and I think the next one is on 12/18. If you're interested let me know and I can send you the info. I think this type of support is way different than what you get from friends and family also. Thankfully I have a very supportive family but I've found that the group offers another side of support. Kinda like this website.

What side of town are you on?

[jaxlaceylace 33]

Cant make it tonight but would love to come to the one on the 18th. Im on the westside. Thats awesome that your here in Jax too Please send me the info

[IMABear 57]

Hey Jax,

Just checking in to see how your doing.

Are you keeping your chin up, hope so

You will make it through this..

IMABear

[jaxlaceylace 33]

Hey Bear!

Getting Better and Staying strong. Taking out all my frustrations at the gym and just counting down. Thanks for checking on me

[Bmarion662 76]

You know this saddens me deaply that family is not on board with the decision. My sister passed away 3 years ago due to obesity she weighed 450lbs. I begged her to get the surgery and I offered to pay for it since she did not have medical insurance. I wished someone had forced her to have the surgery in my opinion she should have been considered suicidel and forced to have it. I will be having the surgery in Jan I started at 216 and ready to do this no one will be making the decision for me not even my husband. I refuse to get to the pint my sister was at 450 lungs filling with Fluid, heart enlarged to the size of a football, liver enlarged, splean enarged, blood pressure through the roof sitting in the hospital on life support for weeks. Morbid obesity is a dreadful horrifying disease.

[Bmarion662 76]

Sorry please know that my sister was only 42 and had three beautiful children that have lost their mother due to obesity. And my mother that mourns for her still today and everyday wishing that she could have forced her to have the surgery

[jaxlaceylace 33]

^{Wow Ms. BMarion, Im so sorry for your loss. Its horrible to lose someone so young and with children to boot, its heart breaking. Im lucky my parents are on board but my fiance, my best friend, and a lot of close friends are not. Im doing much better. Ive met a lot of people on this site who are such a blessing and uplifting. Everyday we get stronger! Congrats on making a great descion for yourself, stay strong chica}

[Bmarion662 76]

Thank you. I firmly believe that my I am doing this for me and my sister and that she will hold my hand through it all.

[LHT 21]

I'm so glad I'm not along.....My mom n dad is happy my boyfriend don't want me to have da surgery n my best friend told me don't do it n another friend said don't do it

[ArcusX 216]

They keep saying "you've lost the weight before, why can't you do it again" and I have lost 50lbs or more at a time but it always comes back.

And there's the key to this whole thing. It's easy - EASY to lose weight for a few months. The hard part is keeping it off. And that's the difference with this surgery. It's not going to be so easy to fall back into your old habits as it has been before.

I don't know. I hate to sit here and say go for it. It may not be right for you - only you can make that decision. You, not your family. Not your friends. Support is here when you need it.

Have you done the psych evaluation that most insurance companies require?

[Misty_eyes 79]

Hang in there everyone coz u are not alone. It's so easy to pass judgment, which people tend to do but they have no idea how it is to be our shoes. I'm In constant pain from plantar fasciitis, Achilles tendinitis, knee and shoulder pain and other complications from obesity.

I choose to do it for myself...and could care less about what other people think. I will only keep it between me and husband, and the positive people in my life - to cut off the unnecessary drama. I choose to live, and to exist! Everything else failed, and am nervous, scared, happy and excited about it.

Will meet with surgeon on the 29 for surgery date. Good luck to all of us!

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

whole new perspective time to do this and focus on me for once.

jaxlaceylace

wonderful realization

you deserve to focus on you!!!

be happy/excited with the thoughts, towards the rest of your healthier and happier life

good luck with WLS

speedy recovery

[jaxlaceylace 33]

Yes Arcus, I did the psych eval and passed with flying colors. I know this is the best des ion for me and I'm happy/thrilled/anxious/nervous/scared lol the whole set of emotions but I really think I'm ready !

Thanks proudgrammy it is an awesome feeling and it's getting stronger everyday ! I'm ready to rock this surgery 6 days left !

Happy Thanksgiving to all my friends, love you guys thanks for the continual support