Somehow I Scared Off My Therapist?

[Jen35 283]

I don't know how, but apperantly I did...

I'm pre-op and I know I have issues with food (don't we all?) so I thought therapy would be a good idea through this process. I researched and found one I clicked with over the phone and met with her for my first appointment on Monday. She did an hour long intake (LOTS of background questions) and I scheduled my next appointment for this Monday. Everything seemed to be fine.

Today, I get a voice message stating that her boss is very sick (when I was there her boss had a cold, wth?) and she has to run the office; therefore, she cannot take any new patients. Umm, I'm not new, you have already started seeing me! She emailed me a list of other therapists in the area with 2 that she recommended. And she is "sorry for the inconvenience". You mean the hour that I wasted answering very detailed questions of my painful past and the co-pay that I paid you for nothing?!? Thanks a bunch!

I don't think I buy her story, so now I feel so very wonderful that even a therapist rejected me. Great for the ego (dripping with sarcasm). I'm I too messed up for her to deal with?

I can find another therapist, but it's a pain in the $#% to start the process over when I had just found someone I felt I could talk to.

[faith413 0]

wow so sorry that happened to you. i am also preop. For my psych evaluation I had to personally take 5 written tests and meet with a counselor for an hour then a psycholigst after that but that is just me. That is crazy so sorry to hear you have to go through all of that.

[icon23 273]

I know how frustrating it is to find a therapist that you click with, but I do think her story is plausible. Perhaps her boss' cold was or turned into something much worse? Running the office probably means that she has to see all of her boss' patients as well as her own and who knows for how long, depending upon what's going on with her boss. Technically, an intake appointment isn't the same as a therapy session, so you are still a new patient to her. For your own sake, try not to think of this as a rejection--sometimes things like this really do happen and it's not personal.

[ProudGrammy 8,322]

therapist rejected me.

Jen

Awwww, hun - she didn't reject you - would have been nicer if she had called you back to speak with you about the situation. I can understand how you might interpret what happened in "not the greatest way"

please don't let this set you back

"For your own sake, try not to think of this as a rejection--sometimes things like this really do happen and it's not personal."

I totally agree with the words of wisdom from icon23 - (what a smartie pants )

therapists don't scare off that easily

"too messed up to deal with this?" nawwwww, i can tell - this was a test for you - you passed the test, now move on to a different person

since you decided to see a therapist, food issues (of course we all have them) overweight, surgery - its nice to be able to talk to someone - you'll find someone else you'll "click" with

take care

good luck with WLS

[Jen35 283]

Well, I have calmed down a bit and I guess I am being over sensitive. I should take this at face value and not read anything into it. It's just hard to take that first step to make the appointment and start talking about all this "stuff" to someone I don't know and now I have to do it all over again.

Thanks for the encouraging responses. Sometimes I need an objective opinion:)