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Why Do Some People Find It Necessary To Vilify This Surgery Or That Surgery?



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I’m just going to say it.

I’m outspoken myself and through this journey (I’m 4 months of my required 6 month pre-surgical appointments)

Why do some people find it necessary to vilify this surgery or that surgery?

We are a community of like people.

We, saying this as a fat person, are constantly vilified by others - if your not - believe me - someone at the grocery store just shook their head - someone at the gas station chuckled under his breath - someone....well you get it.

So how come here - this place which I think is GLUE - are people so high and mighty that they can say what surgery is good or bad for others?

Be open to the POSSIBILITY that lies here - be open to this place that is open and sharing and non-judgemental. Be open to GLUE.

I feel better saying this. It may never be read by anyone else -

I found this place in my journey - I am going to soul search and figure out whats best for me and honor the medical professionals expertise. I have many degrees - one of them is NOT medical.

jumped off my soapbox.

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I think some of it is just human nature. You have to amplify the bad of the other choices to help the choice you made more valid in your eyes. The RNY and band weren't for me but I wish those who have them all of the luck in the world. Some people do get really nasty about it, but I just ignore. You're right, we all did surgery to make our lives better and that's what really matters in the end.

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Feel like I’ve had enough judging in a lifetime of fat

I support whatever decision anyone makes - and I expect that same consideration. In fake online life - and real life

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as humans I feel like we are competitive in nature. The judging is a way to make that person "win" at being better than you ( to them of course not in real life). So just think of it in that way and you win! You are civilized enough to not need that much reassurance that you are better than somweone else to go on in life!!

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