Advice Desperately Needed Re:surgery Date

[MaryDrew 41]

I started my wls journey in June. Completed everything the end of August. Then the wait began. I did awesome in Sept----quit alcohol, started eating only 1 meal a day, had a positive attitude---lost 15 lbs and felt like I could conquer the world with my new vsg sleeve. My stupid insurance didn't approve me till Oct 23---yesterday. Well, being the flawed human I am, I lost it the end of Sept with all the stress of waiting and started back to my old bad habits---eating everything and anything, drinking alcohol, etc. Now I'm up 12 of those 15 lbs lost, so embarrassed of my self and the wls place gave me a choice of surgery dates. I was hoping for a few weeks to get mentally/physically prepared. Not going to happen. They have a date of Nov 6 available with the pre-op appt on Nov 1. That's next week. If I don't take it, (I booked it but am sorry I did), I will have to wait till the beginning of Dec. I feel like it would be better for me mentally to wait the extra month---my dh thinks I'm just making excuses and thinks I should go ahead with it. I really could use your input and throughs. Am I just making excuses, putting it off and being afraid??? I would value your opinion and thoughts a lot.

[brennie 15]

I started my wls journey in June. Completed everything the end of August. Then the wait began. I did awesome in Sept----quit alcohol' date=' started eating only 1 meal a day, had a positive attitude---lost 15 lbs and felt like I could conquer the world with my new vsg sleeve. My stupid insurance didn't approve me till Oct 23---yesterday. Well, being the flawed human I am, I lost it the end of Sept with all the stress of waiting and started back to my old bad habits---eating everything and anything, drinking alcohol, etc. Now I'm up 12 of those 15 lbs lost, so embarrassed of my self and the wls place gave me a choice of surgery dates. I was hoping for a few weeks to get mentally/physically prepared. Not going to happen. They have a date of Nov 6 available with the pre-op appt on Nov 1. That's next week. If I don't take it, (I booked it but am sorry I did), I will have to wait till the beginning of Dec. I feel like it would be better for me mentally to wait the extra month---my dh thinks I'm just making excuses and thinks I should go ahead with it. I really could use your input and throughs. Am I just making excuses, putting it off and being afraid??? I would value your opinion and thoughts a lot.[/quote']

Take the leap and go for it! I had a little time to prepare for my surgery and instead of doing that I ate everything in sight and used the excuse that I was having surgery so I wouldn't be able to eat it for awhile. I gained 16lbs on my supervised diet... That was awful. Take the bill by the horn and live for yourself.

[BlueOctoberGirl 111]

I honestly think you should go for it! Get it over with and start your new happy healthy life!

[Susie in Lima 320]

Wow, well I would want to do it sooner than later because you now see that you CAN loose weight but it is so difficult to keep it off. Once you loose this sleeve weight, hopefully it will be gone forever!!!!

I know you will make the right decision for you! I am thankful that you have a husband that is encouraging you, my husband has been a big encouragement through it all and I am so fortunate. Good luck!

(We all get nervous too when we near the surgery date and with it being so close, I am sure that is part of your concern. You will do fine!!!! Just lean on us here at the board to help you through the difficult times! Hugs!)

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

Your DH is right. You've been waiting this long for the surgery so now you have an opportunity to have it earlier. I'd just do it and begin your new journey ASAP. That way you won't gain anymore of your weight back. Take the next week to refocus yourself. You can do this.....Besides it gives you less time to be anxious about it. Before you know it, you will be sitting here on the big loser's bench with us..... YAAYYYYYYYYYY!

[jkmarsh 9]

Stick with the 11/6 date. The cravings you have will go away and you'll lose more weight after your surgery than if you tried to diet all month and facing Thanksgiving, which is a few weeks away. Good luck!

[O.T.R. sleever 3,386]

I'd go with the earliest day you can get. Can you get one for tomorrow? it's never too soon to start being a better you.

[Ready4success 380]

Go for it!!! If you push it back, you'll only stress about not having taken the earlier date. You can do it!!!!

[MaryDrew 41]

Update: Well, the date choice was taken out of my hands. My boss will be out of town and I am the only other person here(I work at a church--my boss is the Pastor). So I've opted for Dec 3 as my date---my new birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I'm ok with this. I'm actually feeling very positive and ready to get moving with my walking to build up some endurance and starting on my Protein Shakes next week. I also made my first therapy appt for next week too.