November Bandsters!

[Oberhasli 1]

I don't think that people who look at porn are deviated as well. I do however think that we shouldn't condone our teenagers taking part in such activities.

I'm certainly not saying to condone the behavior but I also don't view looking at porn (either online or in a magazine/movie) as being an activity that is going to negatively impact them for the rest of their lives. Breaking house rules are not acceptable and that he should be punished for. One of the things that contributed to my divorce was that my ex and I did not agree on punishment for the child. Admittedly, I'm very strict but I felt penalties needed to be swift and of a severe enough nature that it would discourage the negative behavior in the future. Once a punishment was issued, I did not feel that it should be rescinded. We would come up with plans for discipline, advise the child and then if he would do something, she'd backpedal on the punishment as she'd go through guilt trips. Even kids that struggle academically (and my son is literally border-line genius) aren't stupid and quickly learn to work the guilt to their benefit.

Tom

[Betsyjane 2]

Hey! I walked differently today. Not sure how, but I felt lighter and stronger. My first time.....

[prbrooksie 1]

Boy...this place is dead today.

[Vikki 2]

Hi your guys.......my bandster support buddies. Went to my girlfriends babies funeral yesterday. She was only 2 mths old and stopped breathing last Sunday and they found out she had a calapesed artery which ended up making all her system just shut down. One of the relatives spoke at the funeral yesterday about how we need to live life to the fullest and stop being obsessed on our physical appearence and self image. Made me do some soul searching. I have a different outlook today about my life and that I have a healthy family and need to appriciate life more!!!!!! I just can't stop thinking of the heart break my girlfriend is going threw as a mother. You never know when you something is going to change your life in an instant. If you guys could please say a prayer for her family. Her name is Stephanie. Thanks. Sorry to be a damper but I am just so sad for her and her family for their loss.

[conniesueb 1]

Hi guys--I haven't been able to get on for a couple days, but thanks again for all your support and comments. My son is begging me to reconsider and let him go to prom. I told him that he needs to just leave me alone for a while and let me calm down. He is very good at the guilt trips--he actually had me considering it, but after hearing from all of you, and talking to lots of other people, I don't think I can back down on this. Tom , as far as the porn goes--you are right, it is more about the fact that he was using my computer after being told specifically not to use it for anything other than school stuff. It just scares the hell out of me that something could have popped up while my daughter was on, even though we do have parental controls on it for her. I have changed my password so that he cannot acess the internet at all on my computer anymore, and his laptop is working now, so it shouldn't be an issue. I tried explaining to him that this is about respect--or lack of it I guess. He doesn't respect us or our things, or our rules apparently. Then Monday, I told him to pick up something that he had left in the front yard--told him to be sure and do it that night when he got home. Well, guess What? He didn't do it. I told him the next morning that if he was trying to get on my good side, he was off to a crappy start. Nothing is a big deal to him--he keeps saying "it was just eggs!" He just doesn't get it--but maybe after being grounded for over 2 months and missing prom he will. Anyway, I really do appreciate all the support. Now, for some good news--I bought some shirts the other day from the misses dept, not the plus dept! That has not happened for a long, long, time. I am so happy!

[conniesueb 1]

Vikki--I am so sorry for your friend. That is awful. Here I am complaining about my son, and she lost her baby. I feel terrible. I will definately say a prayer for her.

[Vikki 2]

We all complain Connie. It is nice to have the support to give each other advice. But when something so horrible happens like that it does put your life in a different view. I had a mini nervous break down a couple of weeks ago about being so broke all the time and feeling overwhelmed with finances. Now it seems so small and not important. I have two healthy kids and a good husband and that is what is important in life........not a fancy car or a big house. Thank you for your prayers.

[AngelaT 2]

Where is everyone????? Hope you are all having a nice weekend. I am trying to get back on track...it is harder than I thought going from eating Paris food to trying to eat really haelthy and small portions again... I have slipped a few times... especially on the sweet treats

[MistyArmenti 0]

I am still having a rought time eating. What do you all do if you have a hard time getting anything to stay down? I am hungery and want to eat, but can't get it to stay. yesterday i threw up at least 4 times.... UGH!

I have no saline in my band either. when I was in the hospital my dr removed it.

i am now at -66 lbs.. but I sure didn't want it this way.. it isn't very healthy. I feel like a bulimic... HELP :help:

[Betsyjane 2]

Gosh...nothing in the band and still having a tough time! I guess the Dr. has looked to see if there is slippage.....

All I know is that in the old days, when I used to have trouble eating, hot liquid before a meal helped, and hot meals helped. Can you drink shakes and Soups and eat mushies to get your calories in? I used to only be able to eat solids in th evening and had to drink Breakfast and drink or mushy my lunch...

Are you eating tiny bites and chewing alot, and resting between bites? If so, I'd talk with the Dr. again....

[AngelaT 2]

I am still having a rought time eating. What do you all do if you have a hard time getting anything to stay down? I am hungery and want to eat, but can't get it to stay. yesterday i threw up at least 4 times.... UGH!

I have no saline in my band either. when I was in the hospital my dr removed it.

i am now at -66 lbs.. but I sure didn't want it this way.. it isn't very healthy. I feel like a bulimic... HELP :help:

If you are taking the tiny bites and chewing well and eating slowly...and still PB then please go to the doc right away...the band might have slipped!

[prbrooksie 1]

I agree about going or calling your doctor.

When I had to much in my band...I went for weeks thinking this is normal, so to speak. The thing I wasn't doing was after you PB (just once) I was told to go on liquids ONLY for 24 hours. Instead...I PBing and went on trying to eat. If I had done what I was suppose to do...I probably wouldn't have gotten so swollen inside.

Another thing that might be happening is a blockage in the stoma...just a thought.

[MistyArmenti 0]

I agree about going or calling your doctor.

When I had to much in my band...I went for weeks thinking this is normal, so to speak. The thing I wasn't doing was after you PB (just once) I was told to go on liquids ONLY for 24 hours. Instead...I PBing and went on trying to eat. If I had done what I was suppose to do...I probably wouldn't have gotten so swollen inside.

That is the problem right there!!! I keep on trying to eat after I PB... now I am at the point when I can't even get liquids down... I just took a prilocect.. hopeing that will help, and going to stay on liquids, as much as I can for a few days, but if I can't even get H20 down tommorrow, I am going to call the Dr.

Thanks for you help girls...

Misty

[Vikki 2]

I wanted to ask you guys. I know I have only received one fill and am scheduled to get my second on Sat. but do you guys still feel hungry. I am just feeling so hungry lately. I am wondering if I should take some dexatrim powder they have to put in Water now. Something to help me not feel so hungry. I thought that getting this band was going to stop my hunger but it did at first but now back big time. Does that just mean that it is time for a fill and that will make the hunger go away? I just don't know. I am just struggling with will power right now.

[marni 0]

I am still having a rought time eating. What do you all do if you have a hard time getting anything to stay down? I am hungery and want to eat, but can't get it to stay. yesterday i threw up at least 4 times.... UGH!

I have no saline in my band either. when I was in the hospital my dr removed it.

i am now at -66 lbs.. but I sure didn't want it this way.. it isn't very healthy. I feel like a bulimic... HELP :help:

What does your doctor say about this?