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Θ.༒.Я.Ṧੂʟོཟཛvƹ͡℟ has the right idea! Looking at percentages is a great way to look at it. I was also sleeved on 9/10. Started at 265.4. I'm now at 233.6 so I've lost 31.8 pounds. WAIT - STOP COMPARING. I've lost more in POUNDS, but our percentages are quite close. I've lost 23.6% of my excess weight. And while I've lost the pounds and my clothes are a big looser, they certainly aren't falling off of me.

Stay focused and you'll do fine!

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A stall is very normal, I think you are doing fine - just stay with the program and don't get too obsessesed with the scale. The early days you see the pounds change often... as you move out further it is more like week to week. Then, further out, it is more like month to month. Don't expect to see the losing weight nearly daily to continue - it just doesn't work that way, but it does really add up over time!

I am also frustrated with my stall!! Started at 272 when sleeved 9-5-12. Stalled for almost 3 weeks at 240!!!

What should I do? My clothes are all way too big-am I losing inches but not weight? Help!!

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You can't compare yourself to others' date=' especially taller/ heavier people. Let's look at your situation.

You are 4'11"

Your SW was 191lb

Your CW is 176lb

A normal BMI starts at 124 for you.

You had 67lbs of excess body weight the day of your surgery.

In 1 month you have lost 22.3% of your excess body weight. I personally think that is great!!

Don't think pounds. Think percentages.[/quote']

Excellent!!!!!!!

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again - THANKS when you put it into percentage that looks SO MUCH BETTER...now I don't feel so bad!! so 22.3% gone - WOW I'm a quarter of the way there....and in just 6 weeks....jeez that's pretty awesome.

Goodness I feel better....thanks again...you guys ROCK

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Thanks everyone! Couldn't do it without everyone's support!!! I just don't know why my clothes are WAY too big for me, but weigh the same? Is it the Protein?

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I have not read all the responses but wanted to chime in on your post.....Keep this in mind....most of the people that are on here are trying to get to their first goal of 191, as that would put them in WONDERLAND!!!!!!!!!!!! The fact that you were smaller than most probably has EVERYTHING to do with why you have "failed" Remember - all you see is a number, in most cases you don't have a start weight/height. Too soon to say you failed - keep at it and before you know it you will be reading your post months from now and laughing!

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Thanks! I really needed to hear that!

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O.T.R is exactly right!

You're percentage is awesome!!!

You're doing perfect, no worries!

Congrats!!

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I feel like a failure also...sleeved august 6th and have lost 25 lbs and now on a 2 week stall. I stopped loosing when I started working with a trainer 3 times a week...any advise?

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I feel like a failure also...sleeved august 6th and have lost 25 lbs and now on a 2 week stall. I stopped loosing when I started working with a trainer 3 times a week...any advise?

If you've been working out with a trainer, perhaps you're building muscle which weighs more than fat? Just stick with it and you'll start losing again :)

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You can't compare yourself to others' date=' especially taller/ heavier people. Let's look at your situation.

You are 4'11"

Your SW was 191lb

Your CW is 176lb

A normal BMI starts at 124 for you.

You had 67lbs of excess body weight the day of your surgery.

In 1 month you have lost 22.3% of your excess body weight. I personally think that is great!!

Don't think pounds. Think percentages.[/quote']

The poster formerly known as OTR Sleever said it all.

Besides, would you rather lose pounds or inches? What would really suck is losing the weight but looking exactly the same. You would have to carry the scale around to show everyone you've lost weight. You're better off losing the inches. Now go buy yourself some smaller clothes.

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The poster formerly known as OTR Sleever

Ha ha ha. Do you not like my new look?

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Ha ha ha. Do you not like my new look?

It's awesome. I had the same reaction as BTB. I blinked a few times, and realized that Prince wasn't in da house, it was just OTR being cool. :)

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You sound like your doing great exercise....you could also be converting alot of your fat to MUSCLE!!! Lets face it alot of "us" just let the tool do all the work...with no exercise. Which is why alot need cosmetic help after. But if your doing good exercise your doing it the right way and exchanging your for tone muscle (which of course has its on weight also-just less than fat) under there. In my eyes your doing better than most. I bet your not looking flabby either. Keep up the great work!!!

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