Tapdancincowpiez 31 Posted October 22, 2012 Woof! Okay my bear brothers, the surgery is scheduled for Nov 20, 2012. After jumping through the hoops for a year to have this surgery, I was given the surgery date on Monday and Tuesday evening..... BAM... My partner of 4 years decides to leave. I lost an astonishing 360 pound in just one day of pre opt dieting. Is the surgery going to decease my girth and my growl? Did you have to deal with your buds being envious? Did you lose strenght, and do the cubs like you leaner and meaner? (This is a little different kind of weight loss story as my sexuality has always been about my beefy size, I want to live longer and be heather but I loved being a bear!) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
fyre_storm 1,412 Posted October 22, 2012 Woof! Okay my bear brothers' date=' the surgery is scheduled for Nov 20, 2012. After jumping through the hoops for a year to have this surgery, I was given the surgery date on Monday and Tuesday evening..... BAM... My partner of 4 years decides to leave. I lost an astonishing 360 pound in just one day of pre opt dieting. Is the surgery going to decease my girth and my growl? Did you have to deal with your buds being envious? Did you lose strenght, and do the cubs like you leaner and meaner? (This is a little different kind of weight loss story as my sexuality has always been about my beefy size, I want to live longer and be heather but I loved being a bear!)[/quote'] Anyone who likes you just cause your fat doesn't really love you. My partner and I have talked about it being more about me being healthy and living longer then him liking me big. Find someone who'll love you more for you then your size. Plus some guys like skinny bears which was the original meaning for bears then us fat guys took it over lol. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JamesHRN 114 Posted October 22, 2012 The bear community can be a strange one I can not tell you the number of guys who no longer want to be around after I had my surgery and lost almost 100 pounds I keep hearing the same thing "I am a chaser I don't l,e smaller guys" but I was ok to them when I was larger But I had the surgery for me and I want to be accepted for me not how much I weigh Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tapdancincowpiez 31 Posted October 22, 2012 Anyone who likes you just cause your fat doesn't really love you. My partner and I have talked about it being more about me being healthy and living longer then him liking me big. Find someone who'll love you more for you then your size. Plus some guys like skinny bears which was the original meaning for bears then us fat guys took it over lol. Thank you Fyre and James. My partner left to return to PA because he was homesick and felt I would change. I do not foresee myself making radical behavior changes. (I am easy going Cajun bubba). My fear is losing my feeling of power as a leaner man. "the man's room" thread had me intrqued regarding increased libedo !!! This will be interesting to watch unfold. (where the heck is the spellcheck?) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
JamesHRN 114 Posted October 22, 2012 I have a higher drive now than before Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Robear 0 Posted October 22, 2012 Sorry to hear about your partner Tapdancincowpiez. I cannot wait to have a higher sex dive!!! My partner either for that matter… Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
VSGKirk 855 Posted January 20, 2013 Hey guys - I've been with my partner for 9 years (he's 15 years younger than me, french cajun creole and latino, power lifter , muscle boy) so needless to say, he is the one used to getting all the attention in the relationship. People would literally look at us and no matter how hard they tried to hide it (or not) could not figure out why he would be into a chub bear like me. The reality is, someone who truly loves you is going to love you even more when you are happy and healthy. If they are threatened by that, then they weren't the right person for you after all. That said, if I turn frail or sickly looking or manorexic, yeah, I can see why my partner may not be too turned on by that. But what I'm pretty sure of is that the better I feel about myself and the more stamina I have in the sack, he is going to be one happy guy Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
