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I can't see myself finding Mr Right anytime soon.

Now that IVF is available for single women in Australia, it has been playing on my mind. If only I could afford it.

I have a gorgeous niece and nephew, but one day would like my own child.

Anyone else share my feelings?

I hope to reach goal by my one year sleeve-aversary in June 2013 (aged 35), figured give my body a rest for 6-12 months and then consider my options again. I read it's best to have children first before proceeding to excess skin surgery.

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hey Im new here and not yet sleeved. i think you need to slow down hun . i just seen an other post you had about flirting you seem to be Im such a rush. i would try to enjoy the process of losing the weight and then spend some time getting to know the new you. life changes us we grow and you have done such a huge thing In having your surgery its very brave your not the person you were at the start of your journey and next June or July you will have changed more not just your body but your confidence and mind . please don't settle for less cos you have given your self a time scale . Im probably boring you sorry x i can go on a bit x x x you sound amazing you deserve the best

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Nessa, I have been thinking the same thing...not sure whether it is the old biological clock is tick ticking or what.

As I have said I the Aussie thread, I am the one year post op. somewhat near "goal" not that I really had one in numbers but wanted a balanced life and am pretty much there.

I am now looking at what the next steps in life will be.

Do I still want the perfect story, hell yes, But if that is not in the cards then, why should I miss out on family.

I am meeting guys now and flirting etc, but still not finding the one or a one. I am not going to settle for just anyone, if you know what I mean,just to have a family.

I have decided to give the universe a timeline, often putting these things out there, make it somehow happen. But if it doesn't happen I am looking a ivf which will cost a fortune, and medicare don rebate for singles, only couples. But ivf does not guarantee you will get a child. My brother and sister in law did ivf and yes someone was on their side as I now have 3 beautiful nephews ( one 4 yr old and 8 month old twins) and it canbe a heartbreaking process, they and we the family went through 3 yrs of heartbreak before my first miracle nephew came along.

My best advise is be in the best place you can be emotionally, physically, with confidence before you make any decision.

Families come in all shapes and sizes.

Just my 2 c...sorry I ramble a bit sometimes,I hope it makes sense.

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