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I have a boyfriend who is about 200lbs overweight. I continually make decent choices and try to buy healthy for the household but I am convinced he is addicted to trans fatty fats. He only wants fried, sugary and fatty foods.

I told him I am having surgery and he says I didn't approve that. He says he is kidding but now I wonder if he wants me to continue to be overweight because he is afraid once I lose weight, I will leave.

I love him but because he doesn't even want to try, I fear he might be right. I know you can't change people but at least respect my changes.

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Hello,,

I have learned in life that you have to make your self happy first and everyone else is second.

I have friends who husbands told them the same thing. My friends told them I am making this decision for me my health and to make ma happy. That is something he should want for you any way. Just stand strong and know you are making the best decision of your life.

Thank God everyday and be proud of who you are.????

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Then you got it made. Any time you put God first life is so much easier.

Please friend me I am new to all this, just had my surgery oct 15 and still need alot of support it always helps.

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My read of the situation is...he's not so scared you'll leave him. He's scared he'll be forced to take a look at his own eating problems and most people don't want to do that. I didn't....until I was ready.

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Butterthebean,

He is 9 years younger than me and thinks he is invincible. When he went to the doctor and his blood pressure was 187/110, he got scared for maybe 2 minutes and didn't take one blood pressure Med. I actually feel sorry for him.

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