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I need some advice. I plan to be banded this month. I should find out today (hopefully) the actual date. I am going to Mexico and my sister is going with me. I don't want my family to know. I have family that doesn't understand weight issues. We are all big, but they think I should just go on a diet. My problem is what do I tell them when they find out we are going somewhere? We live close by, so it isn't like they won't know we are gone. We often get together and play cards, etc. I don't want to hear what they have to say about me having the surgery, and I REALLY don't want to hear what they say about going to Mexico. I am not going to defend my actions. I am smart enough to have done research and am confident in the doctor that I chose.

Thank you for any advice you all have.

Julie:faint:

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just tell them u and ur sister are doing a sisters get away weekend, you can even tell them its in mexico...and then as for the weight loss later on, just tell them that your exercising and making better eating choices, which will all be true... good luck!

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I'm with Heather. If they're not going to be supportive, you can always tell them later but you can't un-tell them. You're doing the right thing and you know you are, so just tell them you're going on a mini-vacation with your sister then worry about what to tell them later when they notice your weight loss. You're going to do great!

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Hon-t I just dont believe real grown folk should have to lie about a thang!!!

dont you be worried about your family you the one that gotta live for you!!! It's not they business what you do you a grown woman suga and remember to live "your" life for you!!!

You are the only one that counts right now!!!

Hang in there and please keep me posted on how it goes darling.

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