Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

What To Say About Swift Weight Loss To Acquaintances



Recommended Posts

Everyone I'm close to knows about my VSG last Thursday, 10/11/12. I'm a secretary in Principal's office in an elementary school so a lot of people, teachers, aids, parents and community members, see me regularly. What do I say to 'random' compliments about weight loss, when asked how I did it (of course this will happen in a public arena so God knows who else will hear my response!) When I last lost 70 pounds on Jenny Craig-I was open about it to everyone and anyone. (Thanks to my success, at least 7 women I knew went on JC-we all stopped and regained the loss-typical!) I feel like saying "diet and exercise" but I know that's a lie! Should I openly respond that I had surgery, and if I do, do I risk the chance of an extended Q and A session for all the world to hear (and keeping me from my work--my boss would not be thrilled!). Help! I go back on Monday - rumor has it that I had 'back' surgery...not Bariatric. (Gossips tend to distort story! They got the "b" right and the "k" at the end, but the middle ...WTH! The old "telephone game" played out right before my eyes!)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Diet and exercise are the truth! I would just stick with that, just tell them that you are eating healthy, watching portion size and exercising. I know how you feel, i don't really like talking about myself to the masses.

Best of luck to you!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

How about you just tell them you had weight loss surgery? You don't have to provide specifics, just tell them how good you feel. Focus on how wonderful you are feeling, and remember to smile. Just my opinion.

Before I had the surgery I told very few people only because I didn't want to field questions. When I return to work I plan to tell all who ask with the emphasis on being healthy. GOOD LUCK!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Don't tell people until YOU are ready. No one should be forced to tell people. Once you tell one person, the cat's out of the bag, so to speak. ;)

People lose a lot of week quickly on the Atkins diet and nobody challenges them. So just say you lowered your carbs. And when you are ready, you can add 'i had WLS to make sure the weight stays off.'

Good luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

How about a doctor-supervised weight loss program? It sounds a bit more intense than Jenny Craig, but you're not having to admit to surgery in public. Then, if it's a friend or someone you know socially outside of work, and you want them to know, you can update them away from the office.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

How about a doctor-supervised weight loss program? It sounds a bit more intense than Jenny Craig, but you're not having to admit to surgery in public. Then, if it's a friend or someone you know socially outside of work, and you want them to know, you can update them away from the office.

This one has my vote. If they happen to see your scars at the country club shower room just say, "Oh yeah, my doctor has REALLY aggressive methods!" B)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I keep it super vague and change the subject asap. I hate talking about personal things at work. Good luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Nobody has noticed I've lost weight yet, but I have been asked why I'm not eating celebration cakes at work or what I'm drinking for lunch. I just say high, high Protein, low carb nutrition plan.

If you don't want to share, don't. It is not fear of disclosure or embarrassment or being secretive. It is the same right to privacy that everyone has. Do they want to know what brand of underwear you are wearing or your bra size? "Wow, you sure do have large breasts. What size is that bra?" Or the opposite for small breasts. I know they mean to give you a compliment, but your weight and plan are not public domain.

Tell them whatever you want to tell them. They aren't entitled to any answers about your private, personal life.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am gonna say' date=' dr supervised, high Protein, no carb diet, with a lot of exercise ;) none of that is a lie;)[/quote']

I like this one. Everyone has an opinion and some are mean.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

If you need training in how to avoid answering questions just watch the debates. :ph34r:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

If you dont want to share, dont! Just say you are eating right and exercising period. People are nosey...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I went back to work yesterday and I was so worried about it. I only told my boss and my close co-worker. I work in an office with about 25 people. Everyone was so happy to see me and asked how I was feeling but not one person asked what I had done. I got off easy. They did notice the weight loss so maybe they figured it out. Either way I'm just saying I feel better and thanks for your concern and leave it at that. I did decide that if anyone asked what was wrong I will say because rumors start but I'll wait until they ask. Gives everyone something to talk about for a while.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I just say, "weightloss? Oh no, I just got a new haircut...makes me look slim! :)

Ok that's not true lol

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Have some fun.

Tell them you are on the new fad doughnut diet. :P

Their looks would be priceless.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Bashbee91

      Hey guys new to the process looking forward to this new life. 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Bugg

      Hi everyone! I’m brand new here. I just went through all my pre-op requirements per my insurance company and now everything has been submitted and I’m just waiting for final approval and my surgery date. I’ve been doing research, watching YouTube videos, TikTok’s, ect.. trying to prepare my mind and what to expect so I’ll be ready for the surgery. I was so sure and so set and so ready and excited. However, now that I’ve done everything & it’s almost here, I am sooooooo scared! I know why I want it bc I’ve tried everything and I just don’t feel like I can lose weight by myself. I’m tired of being overweight my entire life. I’m miserable, but I keep psyching myself out afraid of GERD bc I know how that can be and I don’t want to have to get a bypass after already gaining the courage to even get VSG. I’m scared of complications like I’mgoing to regret doing it and be depressed that I didn’t just be more disciplined and try again to lose the weight on my own even sitting here typing this knowing in my mind i just can’t and don’t possess the discipline. I’m also afraid I won’t be able to handle the restrictions of the sleeve. What do I eat? I don’t know how to eat healthy really and don’t enjoy healthy food. I don’t know how to do this! I feel so defeated!Someone tell me they felt anything similar to this or am I not ready? I thought I was. I am so tired of being sick and tired and so tired of myself and so tired of being stuck and stuck in this body and somebody different on the outside from what I feel inside. I just want to ball up and cry.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      over 20 lbs down since4 the pre surgery diet and surgery on the 14th
      · 1 reply
      1. Selina333

        Yay!! Congrats. I know how good that feels. 🤩

    • Jenopolis

      Had a sleeve in 2017, lost over 100 pounds. Had a DS surgery this year (2025) for more sustainable weight loss. 🤞
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • buildabetteranna

      The 14th was my day. I am home and recovery is going pretty smooth. They even let me walk out of the hospital. Picture of me in recovery curtesy of my boyfriend lol. 

      · 3 replies
      1. DaisyChainOz

        Glad it went well!! Wishing you a speedy recovery and wonderful success!! 🤗

      2. buildabetteranna

        Thank you ❤️

      3. Selina333

        Neat you have a pic of this day! I was sooo happy to get my surgery. It was well worth it! And I'm not even near my goal. I had surgery Dec. 2!

  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×