Bad Nut Appt! (Possible Rant)

[mwrarr 244]

Ok...so I just had my monthly NUT appt & it wasn't with my regular. It was with the one who is condescending, contradictory, judgmental & dismissive. I honestly have no idea WHY this woman is working with bariatric patients. I am so annoyed with myself right now that I reset my cardio appt last month. If I hadn't, I'd be waiting for approval notice right now. Ugh. Obviously I'm fat...& have an eating disorder...or else I wouldn't be going through all this nutritional counseling, emotional counseling, fitness counseling & seriously contemplating/awaiting hacking off my stomach! Grrrrz. Mwrarr, indeed.

The hypocrisy of WLS is seriously annoying. If I just "starved" myself on 500 cal/day, & lost 120# in a year or so, I'd be anorexic...but let a surgeon permanently alter my stomach so that I can "live" off 500 cal/day & it's healthcare. I honestly don't know what these people want from me. At this point, I'm just jumping their hoops with my mouth shut & waiting out the next appts. Blah.

347*294/285/135 (*347HW/294SSW)

[ReduceReuseRecycle-Me! 119]

Wow, what happened at that appointment that set you off. Or was it just that you wanted to slap her for her attitude?

My surgeon put that whole 500 cals/day thing in perspective for me. We can't do it as we are now with our normal (or abnormal) stomachs, but the "tool" they are giving us is the tiny stomach that will only want the tiny calories, for a little while, anyway. I had trouble with that starvation level thing as well.

[mwrarr 244]

My surgeon & PCP, & the NP & regular NUT team have all been wonderful. This woman is just ...IDK. she looks at me like I'm not doing something right, but I should know what that is by now, but she's not going to be the one to tell me. And her words are just not friendly or even "reality check", but just vague & dismissive. Like shes burned out.

Yesterday it was an 8am appt & she started off with "why am *I* seeing YOU, today? You normally see Mxxx, I don't even know your case at all!" To which I replied, "I'm not sure, but I had to get in this month to keep the continuity of appts & this was what was available, I guess." It just spiraled from there. She also said that the surgery wasnt really going to do much & then contradicted almost every post-op dietary guideline that i have been given by my surgeon & regular NUT--including saying that fruits & veggies will always be more important than Protein. What?! She lectured me on not exercising enough (I go to the gym 3x/wk w/my BF, do yoga/pilates 2-3/wk @home & walk at least 25 min/day). I couldn't wait to get out of there. I wanted to cry from frustration. I'll make sure any other appts are with my regular.

347*294/285/135 (*347HW/294SSW)

[traceyc 89]

Wow, is she counselling other surgery candidates regularly? Protein first is pretty much the number 1 rule! Is she part of your surgical group or separate? Maybe you should share with your usual NUT the horrible advice she is giving people.

[mwrarr 244]

She's part of the team at the "healthy living" complex that does the medically supervised WL, which is an offshoot of the hospital. And one of the regular NUTs, just not my normal. I plan on bringing it up with my surgeon when I see him next wk & I will definitely let the other NUT & bariatric surgery coordinator know what happened. Honestly, it felt like being at the DMV or something. My only negative experiences with this whole process have been the 2x I had to meet w/her. I'm feeling less cranky today, though. I know I'm doing the right thing, & that I've put in (& still am putting in) the work & asking myself the hard questions. :}

347*294/285/135 (*347HW/294SSW)

[apelt001 116]

I feel your pain and im sorry she was so awful my psych for my surgery reminds me of ur nut. Shes so dismissive and condesending and acts like shes so much better than me and tht i know nothing. Now before i do anything serious inmu life i research it till my brain explodes well dor my sleeve i have researched it all and done all my appts i even scheduled for dbl nut and physical appts just so i can get more info bc only one appt for each is required for me. And this woman spoke to me like i havent a thought in my head and im stupid. I am essentially bitting my tongue through her appt justto get it over with. Good luck to you know your not alone in this journey of terrific people and awful people.