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If you haven't already, I would first invite him to an educational seminar with your surgeon. That's always a good start for those who do not completely understand the risks and benefits of surgery. On a side note, you may "like" exercising more if you can find a fun way fo doing it! It's not easy, but your body will thank you for it :) Best of health!

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my husband was dead set against me getting the surgery. We tried dieting together walking together the whole 9 yards. So I started doing research talking about it telling him how my weight is effecting my quality of life etc... and I drug him to a seminar and year later not only is he supporting me but we are getting it together!

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MOST people I know have seen me struggle... and know that I have tried EVERYTHING since I was 8 years old and started my first diet.

My answer to the "Easy way out" comment would be "only way out".

I just could not break the obesity/hunger cycle. I tried and tried, I used to be able to lose weight and regain, but in recent years, i couldn't even really successfully lose weight anymore!

Unless you have been obese - I don't mean 10-20 pounds overweight, but seriously obese, you just don't realize that the person finds themselves in a physical cycle that is so hard to break. Used to be they blamed it all on emotional issues, and while that is certainly a component, just plain all consuming hunger and rive to eat is one of the many struggles for people with metabolic syndrome.

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So very well said! I MUST print this out and plaster it to my fridge <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' />

Me too. Everyone should read this.

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If you haven't already' date=' I would first invite him to an educational seminar with your surgeon. That's always a good start for those who do not completely understand the risks and benefits of surgery. On a side note, you may "like" exercising more if you can find a fun way fo doing it! It's not easy, but your body will thank you for it <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> Best of health![/quote']

Yes yes yes. I am living proof that yes indeed the seminar makes them a believer. After the seminar-my hubby finally understands what this is all about.

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definitely definitely definitely take him to the seminar my husband was very against it as well and I got sleeved on October 8th and I'm just now feeling good but he so supportive he's being really awesome and he understands so much more because he went to that seminar the informational seminar. I will pray for you and all of your stuff going on and that you and your husband can see eye yo eye just stay strong as a husband and wife unit.

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Scaredy Cat.........you could not have said it better........Yep he will come around

you have a good heart

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