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These posts are so helpful to me - I have problems with anxiety already, so I know I tend to imagine the worst. The thought I can't shake is that I might die during/after surgery and leave my family (two kids, 8 and 5, sweet husband). I honestly don't have any fears about anything else, just the dying. UGH. It helps me to see how common these fears are, thanks for sharing!

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Here is how I look at things. I was fat, couldn't keep up with my family, was extremely unhappy, had diabetes, high cholesterol, and was terrified of not making it through the surgery too. I turned this around by realizing that there is such a low risk of dying during this procedure, and am pretty much healthy for my size a age,that I really didn't have too much to loose. I did a lot of research and learned about the complications and decided to be proactive to help prevent the complications that I could. I was deeply concerned about blood clots after so i made sure I followed my doctor's orders to the T. I walked every chance I could, learned what to look for in regards to blood clots. I had also made a list of pro's and con's of the surgery in regards to my health, relationship with children and grandchildren, and employment options. These are things we need to look at in making the final decision. Also know that it's really normal to have these fears........ Hope you feel better..... :)

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I was all for this and excited. Last night they called to set my date - December 17- 2 days before my 42nd birthday. Now I am scared.

How long does it take to get a surgery date what's the different prossesses

Marie

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How long does it take to get a surgery date what's the different prossesses

Marie

It really depends on the hospital/weight loss program. Generally, after your first consult, it takes 3-6 mos

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