navyjd7 6 Posted September 30, 2012 I'm 6 days out and my husband is bringing home tons of my favorite junk food... I have to constantly remind myself of why I had the surgery( sort of giving myself the talk) he was soo supportive at the beginning and now he's just an ass. I feel so sad because he also needs to loose weight and I thought things would be different ... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
COsleeveDude 273 Posted September 30, 2012 Sorry to hear that. He can only sabotage it if you let him know it bothers you. Don't. 5 Getting There, LibbyLou, samsmom and 2 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mommeof3 58 Posted September 30, 2012 I have 3 children so my husband brings home treats and things for them. They still eat burgers, fries, pizza, chips, candy, Cookies, etc... I donot want to take these things from them because i had the surgery. It is hard but i continue to remind myself of why i had the surgery. I take it 1 day at a time. 4 kmwheel, samsmom, xavtay2 and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
navyjd7 6 Posted September 30, 2012 Thank u guys for reading and taking the time to reply...I also have 3 kids..... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Aquaman3 0 Posted September 30, 2012 Stay strong!! Try not to let it get to you!! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LaBelle509 326 Posted September 30, 2012 That is a hard situation to be in! but you can and will make it. Make sure you let him know how his actions are impacted you. And he's making it so much more difficult to fight your cravings by having unhealthy food in reach. Reminds him of why you did it. But also, remember you did this for you. This is your journey. This is your fight. You need to make changes for yourself. If he supports you, great. If he does not, you are still in charge of your body and what you eat. You can still chose what you eat, how much you eat, and how that will impact your weight loss. 4 Livinglifeout, samsmom, xavtay2 and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
CBT 450 Posted September 30, 2012 Maybe he doesn't know another way to eat and feed your kids? life is a journey, not a destination; so, stop running -H.D. THEROUX 1 Cookeeeeez reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LadyK 164 Posted September 30, 2012 You can do it, I had the same struggle with my hubby during my pre op diet, I wanted to scream! LOL but I just said this I'm doing for me, and no matter what people eat around me, I have to do this, I want to be able to have a snowball fight with my children this winter. Let nothing deter you, what I did, was get mad with the food and say you know what I refuse to eat it, the more of the food I eat the farther I am away from my goal, I also nagged my husband about it constantly, It will work out! 1 samsmom reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Bmarion662 76 Posted September 30, 2012 I have the same problem with smoking. Quit a couple of weeks ago so I will be ready for surgery in Jan however my husband refuses to stop smoking in the same room with me.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SML1997 308 Posted September 30, 2012 Don't let anything stop you. You can do it. You've come too far. It's your time to shine. 1 samsmom reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
doxieville 799 Posted September 30, 2012 Yeah, i thought my husband would jump on my bandwagon with me and eat healthy. Then I thought abt if the positions were reversed....i wouldn't want him dictating what I eat. Even though we are partners, we each have our individual paths to take on the weight journey. That being said, your hubby could be more considerate of you. I told my husband he has from 7am-5pm m-f to eat junk food (when he's at work.). And he needed to take advantage of that time and not eat my fav junk foods at home. He's done that so far. But in your case, you've also got your kids to worry about. They need to learn from you how to eat healthy or they may go down the obesity road too. You are in a tough spot. My heart feels for you. Good luck. 3 samsmom, Neese and abetterme4.2 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
navyjd7 6 Posted October 2, 2012 Thanks for encouragement .... You guys have reaalllly help me....so i read all the comments and feel much better ... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BellaRoma713 46 Posted October 2, 2012 As soon as you are up to shopping and cooking, you will have a great impact on your children's eating habits. Hang in there. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sleeveconvert 55 Posted October 2, 2012 remember you did this for you. This is your journey. This is your fight. You need to make changes for yourself. I he supports you, great. If he does not, you are still in charge of your body and what you eat. You can still chose what you eat, how much you eat, and how that will impact your weight loss. [/quote GREAT AdVICE!!! You can be successful! Spouses are like jealous kids. View this as acting out- either ignore the behavior or take the challenge head on and use your discipline to control you. Saying something to my spouse would be fuel to the fire-- ignoring it would be extinguishing the behavior. Amazing at times of stress what you learn about those you thought you knew. I think its the threat that weight loss and the new opportunities that it represents Brings that causes the sabotage. You can do it, stay strong, focus on you! 1 xavtay2 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
phil 7 Posted October 8, 2012 I have the same problem with smoking. Quit a couple of weeks ago so I will be ready for surgery in Jan however my husband refuses to stop smoking in the same room with me.... I when I decided to go for it and have the surgeryi decided to quit smoking also, I was a smoker for 49 yrs. And I quit a week before surgery. I did it w/ the help of an electronic cig. It works for me, if ur having trouble maybe it could help u also..philI have the same problem with smoking. Quit a couple of weeks agoi so I will be ready for surgery in Jan however my husband refuses to stop smoking in the same room with me.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
