Telling Wveryone Or No One

[Mich grand 35]

I took several weeks off work' date=' then came back and lost 125 pounds in less than 5 months. There is no way people weren't going to guess I had surgery. So I tell everyone who asks. I haven't heard anything negative.[/quote']

I am not going to "keep it a secret". I will tell everyone after the fact. As soon as I mention it, the first thing I hear are going to be the horror stories and how bad an idea this is and how dangerous the surgery is and on and on and on. Get the idea.

All I have to do is tell my mother-in-law and she will yell it from the rooftop. I don't want that. In fact if I can I would rather not "ever" tell her. But that is not possible. You heard the old saying-"telephone, telegraph and tell a woman?" Get my drift?

All kidding aside, I have my consult on 10/11 and until this is over it will be just my hubby, my daughter and the doc's office.

Thanks so much for the advice and concerns and of course I will keep you all updated.

[gmanbat 5,889]

-"telephone, telegraph and tell a woman?"

In my neighborhood it was -"telephone, telegraph and tell Mrs. Showers"

She was the viral video of our day.

[Magicmuffin 19]

Hi

I am not sleeved yet, will not be until January because of staffing issues at work. I will be self pay and going to Mexico. After much research and thought I decided to go ahead with the sleeve back in June, and at first I told no one except hubby (whom I had been discussing it with) and my two kids. The support I get from them is great. I have told a few close friends, mostly those who have had the band with good success and they too are very supportive, they too understand completely why I am going this route. I have also told my brother and sister in law in the hopes that he would consider it, as he is in the same boat as I, with many more health problems of a much more serious nature - he is thinking hard about it but I think he is waiting to see how it goes with me! I will not tell my parents or my sister because I know that they would be horrified, I know my sister would think it is purely cosmetic and not understand. I have also hinted at my intentions to a few others who were also horrified. I try to explain that I am considering it for health reasons, they don't get it.

I try my best to subscribe to the "you can't please everyone, so please yourself and the ones you love" motto. In the beginning I was so excited about my decision I wanted to tell everyone but after a few negative reactions I will not be telling anyone else for now.

I have decided that after the surgery if anyone asks specifically, I will tell them. If they ask why, I will tell them. I agree with many previous posts that it is my decision, made for my own reasons, and as I typically try not to judge anyone else, I will not accept the judgement of others, God alone will be my judge.

[Butterthebean 8,146]

I just want to say to everyone here who has not been sleeved (and you may already know this), when you start losing weight people are going to be coming out of the wood work to congratulate you and tell you how good you look. And the next words out of their mouth will almost always be "how did you do it?" Answer that however you please, and I am passing no judgement or giving no advice. I just want you all to be prepared for that question to be asked 1000 times, because everyone is hoping you will tell them some super secret easy method that they have never heard of.

[LizTex2587 212]

It is completely up to you! Whatever you feel comfortable with. I'm still in the approval process, but most of my family, friends, and Co-workers know that I intend to have this surgery. I've had mixed responses, but most have been supportive. The bottom line is that nobody has to live inside your body except you so it doesn't really matter what anyone says. You want to be healthy and you want to look good! Do what you feel is right for you. as for those that won't support your decision, just thank then for their input and let them know the topic is off the table for discussion of they are going to be a constant voice of doubt. They should respect your choices for your life, even if they don't agree with or understand them.

[Mich grand 35]

I told limited people before I went to Mexico. I was sick of hearing everyone say I was crazy for getting it done and going to Mexico. When I got back with zero complication I told everyone. I like to tell my story to maybe help someone else out since most people are not aware of the sleeve.

I like you skyjack. You tell it like it is. I have been keeping up with your beer question!!