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I feel so bad kinda...I am on my third day of pre-op diet...can only drink Protein drink and Water for 2 weeks...I am so hungry and grumpy it is unbelievable.....my poor husband has been trying so hard to support me during this difficult time and even though my intentions are good. ( I really appreciate his loving concern ) However, he just has to look at me sideways and I lose it. Then I cry because I lose it...he tells me not to worry..he understands.....but last night we were getting along good, doing some chores around the house together and every few minutes I ended up yelling at him or spitting off....He would just look at me and then I would realize what I just did again........I think he is thinking about hiding under the bed until the surgery is over...poor guy....

So I am either crying or yelling or sleeping or basically counting the minutes to my next Protein Drink......Will these 2 weeks ever end!!!!!

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Be strong and best of luck to you! I am not looking forward to the preop diet. I am sure that I will be evil too;). Dee

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Things got a lot easier for me after the first week. I was also breaking a strong caffeine addiction to coffee and lots of soda's, so I hear ya:). Just remember "this too shall pass".

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hang in there..I was very emotionally leading up to surgery..more from feeling embarrassed at having the surgery....now I'm 3 weeks out have lost 22 and am feeling a lot better than before surgery. My husband is also very supportive but I had to tell him there are just some things he can't understand b/c he does not have weight issues.

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I gave up tea a week before this diet..I know it is not that long...but every little bit helps I thought......hope he survives my situation...and I hope you are right :(

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My husband is a bean pole....if he misses a meal he loses 10 lbs....not kidding........how can he possibly understand this whole thing.......but he is trying so hard and I am yelling at him...........:(

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This might not sound like the best advice...especially from a guy. But it worked for me. I got a prescription for Ambien right before I started my 3 week liquid preop diet. Instead of being irritable and annoying the crap out of my wife every night...I just took an Ambien and went to sleep. I used the same approach to quit smoking before surgery as well. Probably not the best advice, but its probably different than any other advice you'll get. Good luck.

You usually lose so much the first week or so that it tends to cheer you up a bit as well.

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Tell him to just stay under the bed until you are 3 to 4 weeks post op. It won't get better till then. And if you have the 3 week stall he may as well go to a hotel.

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It looks like you have a good man there. He sounds like a tough guy in a good way. He'll hang in there.

Many ladies here have horror stories of non-supportive husbands. I was non-supportive until I went to a WLS support meeting and then I became so supportive that I jumped in with her. :rolleyes:

I told her, "If you're going down, baby, I'm going down with you!"

I had already decided the sleeve was right for me but I figured I might as well milk the situation and make myself look like Romeo. B)

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It is wonderful to see it from a mans perspective...Ty for not saying he should run like hell........you both made me laugh TY for that! :) I will pass on your advice to him as well...

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