Help! What would you do?

[NewBeginnings2018 81]

Hi everyone,

I am just about 8 days from banding, and I have just started dating a great guy that I really like. I am obviously going to have to tell him that I am getting this procedure, but I'm not sure when/how is best. We've only been out two times, but it looks like there will certainly be more dates. Being on a liquid diet for 3-4 weeks will make it tough to hide the procedure until we're further along in the dating. So - I was hoping I could get some feedback. Maybe from some people who have had a similar situation, or just have some good advice.

I know that if he's a good guy he won't have a problem with it, and if he does he's not worth it, and if it's meant to be it's meant to be. I'm just not sure how to bring it up without just blurting out that I'm having weight loss surgery. That may be the best option, but I'm curious to see what you all think.

Thank you!

Chrispy

[mousecrazy 2]

Hi Chrispy!

I'm a blurt it kinda gal. I might lead into with a "this is a bit awkward..." or, "Let's plan our dates around anything but food, for now...". I sure understand your question, and hope he's a good guy and an understanding guy. He'll probably want to know if you'll ever be able to enjoy dining out again...and you will! You'll be a cheap date!

I hope things go very well for you!

[Elisabethsew 50]

Why not be honest? He clearly likes you for who you are and not what you weigh so don't you think he would be supportive of your efforts to lead a healthy life? Tell him the truth.

[Malice X Girl 0]

I say tell him. Secrets are no good plus you'll feel better being open with him. Things will be even more obvious when you're able to eat maybe 5 bites of food before you're done.

[sugarplum 0]

yes tell him if he likes you he will support you and he could be a gr8 help and a fantastic future partner for you. if hes not happy with your decision then hes no good any way, its best to find out his thoughts now at this early stage, than worrying later when you had your op. go 4 it tell him i would in your position, good luck !!

[NewBeginnings2018 81]

Thanks ladies. Guess there is no other way than to come right out and say it. :confused: As I've said before - it's a wonderful problem to have!