Sue Vsg Bariatric 5 Posted September 17, 2012 I chose not to tell co-workers about my VSG. A new employee was informed by our co-workers that I had my "stomach stapled." New employee told me. Since I never told them in the 1st place, why are they telling others? The person talking is one of the largest people I know, so I would think she would be more understanding. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
on the way to the new me 18 Posted September 17, 2012 Don't let her bother you! She is probably just jealous. People we think should be the most understanding are usually the worst. Chin up! You chose a healthier lifestyle! 1 xavtay2 reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
DZ1RMQ 20 Posted September 17, 2012 I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It is her jealousy and insecurity. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gmanbat 5,889 Posted September 18, 2012 I chose not to tell co-workers about my VSG. A new employee was informed by our co-workers that I had my "stomach stapled." New employee told me. Since I never told them in the 1st place, why are they telling others? The person talking is one of the largest people I know, so I would think she would be more understanding. Some people have class, some need a class:Basic Humanity 101 Don't waste your time or emotional resources on bottom feeders and concern about what they say and do. Enjoy your life with those who have the intelligence and maturity to accept, appreciate and enjoy you. 9 Frza, Need-a-Sleeve, JamaicanGirl2011 and 6 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
prettysleeved1 173 Posted September 18, 2012 I chose not to tell co-workers about my VSG. A new employee was informed by our co-workers that I had my "stomach stapled." New employee told me. Since I never told them in the 1st place, why are they telling others? The person talking is one of the largest people I know, so I would think she would be more understanding. Wait. If you chose not to tell co-workers, how did they know in the first place? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Tinka504 46 Posted September 18, 2012 I've had the same problem. I choose not to let her drag me down to her level. Since then I've become more open about it. I did this for me, not for them. So let them talk. You are beautiful. Show them that talking crap behind your back only means that you mean so much to them you are always on their mind. Pure jealousy... chin up. Dont sweat them small crap. 2 Sue Vsg Bariatric and on the way to the new me reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
june13sleever 223 Posted September 18, 2012 There could be a potential hippa violation. If you didn't tell anyone at work how did they find out? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Butterthebean 8,146 Posted September 18, 2012 Wait. If you chose not to tell co-workers, how did they know in the first place? My first thought was it was pure speculation because someone was jealous of the weightloss. 9 billyvmom, dee.jay.bee, gmanbat and 6 others reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BigFatLoser 331 Posted September 18, 2012 Oh yeah that has jealousy written all over it. 1 DZ1RMQ reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
BigFatLoser 331 Posted September 18, 2012 I would confront her! I hate crap like that. So sorry you have to deal with petty immature nonsense. Just keep getting healthy! 1 DZ1RMQ reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Need-a-Sleeve 211 Posted September 18, 2012 I told everyone & what has been really interesting is I have found who my real friends are & who I need to cut loose... Sounds like you have identified who you need to avoid! 4 Sue Vsg Bariatric, TapSnap, xavtay2 and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sue Vsg Bariatric 5 Posted September 18, 2012 I did not tell anyone except my husband and my sister, who lives in another state. It has to be speculation. The new co worker said she has seen me eat and there is no way I could've had a bypass and eat that much (I know tricks for making it look like I've eaten alot). I told her she was right...I DID NOT have a bypass. LOL!! 1 dee.jay.bee reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
prettysleeved1 173 Posted September 18, 2012 Did you take formal FMLA because an HR admin, could have told. Either way, it's not wise to spend too much time on what someone who isn't responsible for your livelihood is saying about you behind your back...or to your face for that matter. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SleeveDreamer 383 Posted September 18, 2012 It's a shame that some people have to be so cruel. I agree that they may be jealous. If someone confronts you and you need to respond, just tell them you wanted to have a healthier you and a healthier lifestyle and that you have made a decision that you feel is the best for you and your future health. There is nothing wrong with having this surgey. I say that I the size of my stomach decreased, not that I had it stapled. I had another issue as well, as 1/3 of my stomach had protruded up through my diaphragm and was lodged between my lungs and heded for my heart. Heart disease is the biggest killer among women and you took a precaution that would help prevent any heart conditions in the future. I am 9 months and at my goal nd I am no longer on any meds and feel great. It is a big decision, and you should be proud you are on your way to good health. Tell them it is a private matter and you really don't wish to discuss it. You are not obligated to explain. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gettinMeBack 380 Posted September 18, 2012 She's just jealous of ur courage to do something about ur weight and wishes deep down that she wud have done it before you!! I've already had friends that are smaller than me say they wish they cud get that surgery! Ignore ignorance and flaunt ur weightloss at work girl! Buy ur smaller scrubs or whatever u wear and show off the NEW YOU!!! 2 xavtay2 and Jojiblossom reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites