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shellbell125

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shellbell125    41

shellbell125
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So, I've been reading about everyone and wanting to lose weight and be there for their spouses/kids/grandkids. Now I want to hear from the single ladies (men). How have you been now that you've lost (losing) weight? Do you have dating worthy confidence now? Have you been on dates? Have you discussed the surgery? How have you handled going out to dinner? I want all the juicy details. ^_^

Personally, the depression looms as I turn 35 in a couple days and I'm alone (no kids). I haven't been on a date in maybe 5 years. This is so embarrasing. I look forward to having the confidence to go back online.

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IrishEyes    59

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Omgoodness, what a great topic!! I am a pre-op single lady so don't have anything to share except looking forward to feeling good again, building confidence and (gulp) getting back out there! Very fun thread and interested in the responses you get. Thanks for posting!!

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Well I am married, however I did go out with my girlfriends and I practically had to fight the guys off. I did tell my hubby he was gonna have to buy me a bigger diamond ring to scare off potential suitors. The sex is a lot better. My legs can bend like I never thought, and it doesn't hurt :) when I we go out for dinner dates it's great, I feel so sexy and confidant, I love getting all dressed. I feel like I'm slowly but surely becoming eye candy...what maybe one day I'll be that trophy wife that I always knew I could be.

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FishingNurse    1,211

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I met the love of my life post sleeve (2-3 months post-op, 50 pounds down) Definately made a big difference in my confidence. I could be myself. I think you will find dating is much easier post sleeve-- confidence makes a big difference!

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Red597    35

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Great topic shellbll125! And I have you beat by 10 years, so I win the right to be depressed lol!! But seriously, I am almost 3 weeks out - sleeved on 8/28, and I'm down 24 lbs...not enough to make a huge difference yet, but I feel more confident. I feel like I am ready to discover the real me. And yeah, have a few...OK, a LOT if dates lol, but I feel like I will choowe much better because I don't "have" to settle.

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enigmachik    403

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I'm 33 not married, no kids also. I totally understand what you mean about depressing and embarrassing. I'm not back on the dating scene yet, but here's to believing! We have to remember that we are worthy of love. :)

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Red_Charms09    102

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Well I am married' date=' however I did go out with my girlfriends and I practically had to fight the guys off. I did tell my hubby he was gonna have to buy me a bigger diamond ring to scare off potential suitors. The sex is a lot better. My legs can bend like I never thought, and it doesn't hurt <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':)' /> when I we go out for dinner dates it's great, I feel so sexy and confidant, I love getting all dressed. I feel like I'm slowly but surely becoming eye candy...what maybe one day I'll be that trophy wife that I always knew I could be.[/quote']

I can't wait to be a eye candy. A guy haven't "Holla"at me since......so long I can't remember.

surgery date 12/3/12 with Dr Goreki NY

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jh5497    105

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So, I've been reading about everyone and wanting to lose weight and be there for their spouses/kids/grandkids. Now I want to hear from the single ladies (men). How have you been now that you've lost (losing) weight? Do you have dating worthy confidence now? Have you been on dates? Have you discussed the surgery? How have you handled going out to dinner? I want all the juicy details. ^_^

Personally, the depression looms as I turn 35 in a couple days and I'm alone (no kids). I haven't been on a date in maybe 5 years. This is so embarrasing. I look forward to having the confidence to go back online.

I am so much more confident, and I'm only one month post op. I went to the bar last weekend and felt so different from a year ago when I was there weighing 270+lbs. I had more guys trying to dance with me, I had less trouble squeezing in busy lines and I didn't sweat nearly as much when I was dancing. I haven't started dating yet though! I'm just not at the point where I want to.

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bethnc1970    53

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Single...42..sleeved... And down roughly 80 lbs. Since 6/29/12.. I met a guy I've been dating for about 6 weeks now... He knows about my surgery... Picks on me when i burp after eating... Shares his dinner with me... And the biggest concern he has.. Am i going to stop seeing him after I've lost more weight... Its odd to be on this end of that feeling i think??? it seems like each jean size i lose.. The more confident i am...

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elindoll88    92

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I had a plan to start online dating as soon as I hit 150. I made a profile about 2 weeks ago, have been messaging guys on the site. The weight loss also gave me the confidence to respond to a personal ad on a local message board. We've been emailing and texting. I have a date to meet him for coffee on Monday.

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smb    75

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Single...42..sleeved... And down roughly 80 lbs. Since 6/29/12.. I met a guy I've been dating for about 6 weeks now... He knows about my surgery... Picks on me when i burp after eating... Shares his dinner with me... And the biggest concern he has.. Am i going to stop seeing him after I've lost more weight... Its odd to be on this end of that feeling i think??? it seems like each jean size i lose.. The more confident i am...

Awwwww that is the sweetest thing. :)

He sounds like a keeper!

Do you think you want to keep him?

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bethnc1970    53

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Awwwww that is the sweetest thing. :)

He sounds like a keeper!

Do you think you want to keep him?

So far he's a keeper :)

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XTwisted_LemonX    12

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Oh I can't wait to get back on the dating scene again !!!! My surgery is coming up soon and being 23 and obese has dropped my confidence level really low. I know after I get down to my goal weight I'm going to let out my inner tigress!!!!

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Ima Loser    197

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Well I am married, however I did go out with my girlfriends and I practically had to fight the guys off. I did tell my hubby he was gonna have to buy me a bigger diamond ring to scare off potential suitors. The sex is a lot better. My legs can bend like I never thought, and it doesn't hurt :) when I we go out for dinner dates it's great, I feel so sexy and confidant, I love getting all dressed. I feel like I'm slowly but surely becoming eye candy...what maybe one day I'll be that trophy wife that I always knew I could be.

Hahahaha I keep saying this same type of thing to my husband... He always has called me his trophy wife... And I kind of dislike that phrase, but now that I am closer to my surgery date I keep joking to him that soon he really will have a trophy wife LOL

Luckily he still says "I already have one"

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