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48 Pounds Lost And I Am The Only One Who Notices?



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I started at 238. Down to 190 and one person has noticed!!!! I will not go public with my surgery. I have witnessed too much negativity towards people who I know who have had the surgery in the past. It is a bit discouraging!!!.I honestly do not like the attention when it comes to my weight good or bad but gees how much do I have to lose to look different!! I was so unhappy with my appearance before and was starting to feel so much better about my self. People say it is a easy way to lose weight when you have surgery but, I was sleeved the 14th of August and it has been anything but easy!!!

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I'll bet people notice but don't feel comfortable saying anything. I have come across that several times. Some finally said something and then told me they weren't sure if they should have. People can be funny like that.

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Sometimes I wonder if I made the right decision letting everybody and their brother know because when i head back to work sometime next week they will be expecting some unbelievable immediate transformation and that is not going to happen! You are right about negativity. i have one friend that is adamant i should have just done a year of shakes and I would be fine. People just dont understand!

Most people are very supportive, however and I believe the larger your support group the better. If you are unable to share with the people around you, definitely share on here because everybody is pulling for you and is ecstatic about your weight loss!!!!

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I have had a mostly Positve experience telling most people. I found that telling my coworkers actually took a lot of pressure off of me... And when they see me eating strange... They know why and don't question me. Perhaps I just work with a lot of good people (social workers). They would occasionally joke with me and ask me what I was having for lunch... A Water sandwich? But that was funny to me.

Don't get me wrong... I have experiences some annoying things... Like a few select people are always asking me how much I have lost and what can I eat now... Asking me several times a week

But most people are very supportive and positive

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[People say it is a easy way to lose weight when you have surgery but, I was sleeved the 14th of August and it has been anything but easy!!!

I know it is hard to accept, I know it was hard for me, but there is a great deal of stupidity in our species. I know that everything I say about other humans reflects back on me because I are one. It seems this operation stimulates people to display their ignorant, not having any idea what they are talking about, side.

Happily, humans have good stuff too; compassion, self-sacrifice, etc. so I am not inclined to want to give up my human card and join the marsupials. :blink::D

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I am still not telling!! Lol. ;). While I was just getting started with my nutritionist per-op. a distant relative had just publicly announced she had had the surgery and was down a good 80 pounds at a baby shower.everyone at the table I was sitting at were talking about how old she looked, her loose skin, how she took the easy way out, they think she has developed an eating disorder. Those people were my family!!

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Sometimes it hard to when people don't comment about my weight loss and then I have to re-frame my thoughts to, "I did this for me and this is my new new skinniness, and I love it." That's my reality check, it's for me and it was frickin hard work to get here. So happy we are all supportive of each other. :)

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I started at 238. Down to 190 and one person has noticed!!!! I will not go public with my surgery. I have witnessed too much negativity towards people who I know who have had the surgery in the past. It is a bit discouraging!!!.I honestly do not like the attention when it comes to my weight good or bad but gees how much do I have to lose to look different!! I was so unhappy with my appearance before and was starting to feel so much better about my self. People say it is a easy way to lose weight when you have surgery but' date=' I was sleeved the 14th of August and it has been anything but easy!!![/quote']

I've said it before, but for every complaint posted about nobody acknowledging their weight loss, another one pops up about people being upset that others are talking about their weight loss. We are all sensitive about our weight and really invested in losing a bunch, I think we can really over analyse a lot of aspects of the journey. Good job on the loss!!

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Sigh I know how you feel I his all summer long at my house, just relaxing with the kids poolside..saw a bunch of moms the other day from school not one said anything....I lost 90 pounds ! people suck lol

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I am the same about not telling. My husbands family are so judgmental, so I would rather not. However I am down 50 lbs and NO ONE has said anything either. I think to myself is the scale right? LOL. But you know I do not care, I feel better, I know I look better and my clothes are not fitting, so I am happy regardless.

I have to say that this has been the hardest decision and thing I have ever done. If people think its "the easy way out" then shame on them, because it has been the hardest thing for me!

Good luck and keep going!!!

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Sigh I know how you feel I his all summer long at my house' date=' just relaxing with the kids poolside..saw a bunch of moms the other day from school not one said anything....I lost 90 pounds ! people suck lol[/quote']

You can bet those hens started squalking the second you were out of earshot. And only because they were jealous! Walk proud!

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If people see you every day its not as easy to notice one day they will take a look at you and go oh you lost a lot of weight!

It’s like when your putting weight on no one notices till one day your 50-100lbs bigger than you were.

It’s also considered rude to ask a person if they gained or lost weight.

Another thing you might find about family and friends if you yo yo diet and go through stages where your on a diet and loose up to 50lbs than stall then slowly put it back on and do this over and over they might not say anything incase its one of them yo yo diets again and no point saying anything coz you will just put it back on again.

More people may say things when you keep on getting smaller and not putting weight back on.

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36 lbs down and today was the first day I had someone mention it. It felt GREAT!

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