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So I found out my husband was cheating on me 2 days ago and I just had surgery 8/15... We had unprotected sex a week b4 surgery and also like a week ago... Stupid I know but we haven't been able to conceive cus of my weight but the last 3-4 days I been spotting and I been throwing up... Dont know if it's cus surgery or if I'm pregnant... I hope I'm not! I should b starting my period in a week n half ... Any advice? Or ideas what it could be? I also gained 2 lbs.. And I haven't really been eating cus of stress... :-/

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Sounds like you are going through a rough time. Hope things work out for you. They usually give you a blood test at the hospital to screen for pregnancy or at least they do at mine. Maybe you are getting your period early? The surgery can mess with people's cycle. If you are still throwing up go see your doctor. You don't want to get dehydrated! Hugs!!

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They generally do screen for pregnancy before you go in for surgery. I know for me, about 3.5 weeks after surgery I had a 5.5 week long period. Most recently I've been under quite a bit of stress, but since that has mostly past, I too have been vomiting a lot. In the last 3 days I've not been able to keep anything down. My best advice would be to contact your surgeon and ask the question. If you are really concerned, take a pregnancy test as well.

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Even a hospital or doctors office can not tell until 8 to 12 days after fertilization so it's likely too early to know. A fetus that young is not yet throwing off any or enough hcg to make you feel symptoms. A couple of questions? When was your last menstral cycle? This is important to know your window of ovulation. You can play in bed like bunnies but if you aren't or haven't just ovulated, nothing but fun happens.

Are you regular (and surgery will fuss that up? But for the dates involved it would help to know the probability.

I'm sorry he hurt you. If you are pregnant it will be urgent to work with a full medical team. The one thing that you don't want to do is get pregnant withing the first three months on your sleeve as the fetus could be mal nourished.

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Divorcel, VSG. & pregnancy... Oh My....Bless your heart...I mean I hope you'll be alright... Keep in touch with us please...

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well.. i'm sorry for everything you're going through. no one deserves that. it really is terrible. :(

this may sound mean, but i don't mean for it to be.. i hope you aren't pregnant & that you will kick him to the curb for doing that to you.. especially right after you just had surgery... first thing i'd do is go get a test for STD's.... (not being mean, am being serious).. i would also make a doctor appointment to see if you're pregnant or not..

just remember, you don't have to put up with anybody's garbage, you're worth more than that & don't sell yourself short. you deserve the best life has to offer & you should grab it.. and any dude that doesn't treat you like a queen, doesn't deserve the time of day & there's other fish in the sea.

on the up side.. if you do kick him to the curb & you're not pregnant.. you're going to be getting a fresh start in a new body.. so congratulations on that! :) and his loss!

if you are pregnant, congratulations.. still think you deserve better & hope you kick the guy to the curb. once a cheater, always a cheater. if he says he will "change" then he'll prove it even if you're apart.

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