So Sad I Cannot Breathe

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My 26 year old daughter is moving out of town. I took her to look for apartments and while we were looking she had some sort of breakdown in the car. Fear, frustration? I don't know what caused it. While she was sleeping, on the way home, my GPS sent me the wrong way, adding about 30inutes to a 2.5 hour trip. She totally flipped out. She screamed, yelled, threatened to jump out of the car. At one point, while I'm driving 60 mph down some country road she opened the door and threatened to jump. I new if she got out, I'd never get her in again and this was in the middle of no where. After a mile or so she closed the door but kept screaming and began throwing things. I had a hard plastic cup in my drink holder that she threw hard enough to break my windshield. I was so scared that I tried to call my husband for help. She took my phone and each time he called she hung up. I drove with my hand on the door lock for an hour to keep her from opening the door. I finally got back home. I wanted to take her to a hospital but I knew she'd never get out of the car. She told me if I would just drop her at her apartment she wouldn't harm herself. I did. She has since sent me a text that said to never contact her again. We are supposed to leave for Europe in three weeks for a two week vacation. She is supposed to go.

I am heartsick. I've never seen her like this before. I am clueless what to do.

[Lissa 2,631]

It sounds like your daughter needs some serious professional help. I would call the local police where she's at and ask them to do a wellness check on her. She has already threatened serious harm to herself, so a psyche evaluation may be in order. The police or hospitals in most states can do a three day admission to a facility to help someone calm themselves down. If the problem is more serious, or needs medication, that three day stay can be a Godsend to save someone's life.

Please act now. You could be saving your daughter's life. I know you don't want to do anything to harm her, but you cannot let someone in that mental state be alone. Better to over react on this occasion than to plan a funeral.

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

This make me so sad to hear. Hope things get better.

[GivingItMyAll 168]

It sounds like your daughter needs some serious professional help. I would call the local police where she's at and ask them to do a wellness check on her. She has already threatened serious harm to herself' date=' so a psyche evaluation may be in order. The police or hospitals in most states can do a three day admission to a facility to help someone calm themselves down. If the problem is more serious, or needs medication, that three day stay can be a Godsend to save someone's life.

Please act now. You could be saving your daughter's life. I know you don't want to do anything to harm her, but you cannot let someone in that mental state be alone. Better to over react on this occasion than to plan a funeral.[/quote']

Great advice.

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[Ready4success 380]

I'm only offering advice, please don't take this the wrong way. If your daughter is of normal intelligence (I'm the mom of a daughter is who isn't, so I always consider disabilities first), and this type of behavior is new to her, then it is your responsibility to find the nearest mental health crisis center and take her to be evaluated. My brother, who was a senior Computer Science major, started exhibiting signs similiar to this, and we had him committed against his will, so that he would not harm himself, but so he would also not harm others (think Batman premier in Colorado). My brother was diagnosed as bipolar, is now on medication, and receives therapy. I'm not saying that your daughter is mentally ill, but your responsibility as a mother is to make sure that she is safe. Good Luck, I hope everything works out.

[evelynvsg 136]

It sounds like your daughter needs some serious professional help. I would call the local police where she's at and ask them to do a wellness check on her. She has already threatened serious harm to herself' date=' so a psyche evaluation may be in order. The police or hospitals in most states can do a three day admission to a facility to help someone calm themselves down. If the problem is more serious, or needs medication, that three day stay can be a Godsend to save someone's life.

Please act now. You could be saving your daughter's life. I know you don't want to do anything to harm her, but you cannot let someone in that mental state be alone. Better to over react on this occasion than to plan a funeral.[/quote']

I agree with Lissa.

[Goodgonebad 38]

O My!!! I am so sorry that you are going through this. I too have challenges with my youngest and the hardest part was realizing that he is grown and allowing him to make his own mistakes and allowing myself to now LIVE for me! Have a wellness check done and let go and focus on your new journey for your life. I do wish you and your daughter well.

[Cresteds Mom 9]

Please get her some help now. If she doesn't normally act this way, it's a cry for help. I know you don't want to over react or make her mad at you but it sounds like she needs help. Hugs and prayers are with you.

[Liamlover2011 66]

Hi I don't want to scare you but I work for a major hospital and review psych cases all the time. My opinion and only my opinion is to call the police department she is a threat to her self and should be evaluated for grave disability. You would hate to not act and something happen.

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[Susie in Lima 320]

Praying for you sweetheart!

[chad2rad 491]

It sounds like your daughter needs some serious professional help. I would call the local police where she's at and ask them to do a wellness check on her. She has already threatened serious harm to herself' date=' so a psyche evaluation may be in order. The police or hospitals in most states can do a three day admission to a facility to help someone calm themselves down. If the problem is more serious, or needs medication, that three day stay can be a Godsend to save someone's life.

Please act now. You could be saving your daughter's life. I know you don't want to do anything to harm her, but you cannot let someone in that mental state be alone. Better to over react on this occasion than to plan a funeral.[/quote']

I was in your place about two years ago. Going to the ER was the best decision we ever made. Considered a baker act, but she went willingly. A week and a half of inpatient rehab and a first time med made all the difference.

[Fun size 62]

Thank you all for your kind and wise words, also for your prayers. She's an RN. She's intelligent. She has cut off all contact with me, but is still in touch with my husband. I feel powerless right now.

[mufasas-mom 170]

Im so sorry and cant imagine hoe you are feeling its our job as parents of young and older kids to protect them first. Please get her help now not next week but now. Her behavior sounds quite manic especially cutting ties with family matters. I know from helping my friend w her daughter

We are thinking of you

[Fun size 62]

Hi I don't want to scare you but I work for a major hospital and review psych cases all the time. My opinion and only my opinion is to call the police department she is a threat to her self and should be evaluated for grave disability. You would hate to not act and something happen.

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I agree with you totally. I should have taken her straight to the hospital when she was in my car. I wanted to call the police but she took my phone.

Until this happened we were a normal family. Or so I thought.

[Fun size 62]

I know she needs help. Since I let her out of my car I probably blew it. She's a hospital RN and I know she's been working this weekend. It's just a tough, heartbreaking spot to be in.