Does Anyone Go Back And Forth With Doubts?

[Optimist01 3]

Hi everyone,

I'm waiting for my sleeve to be done in November. I keep going back and forth about it. I wake up in the morning thinking "no way am I going through with this,... it's too extreme..." Then, as the day drags on, I change my mind and think about all the time I've wasted being fat and inactive, letting life go by. I've gone back and forth like this for months while waiting for my official date to be sleeved. I don't know if this is normal or if it's a good idea go through with the sleeve if I'm not 100% behind it. I do know that I'll probably never lose the weight any other way. It's so depressing. I keep thinking what a loser I am that I have to cut my stomach in order to lose weight, that I'm not strong enough or discipline enough to do it the "regular" way. Just need to talk this out...

[Blugirl 42]

I felt that way too. I think that just the fact of altering your body is scary! however.... since I didnt really see any difference in my body ( except for the fact that I could eat way less) I personally thought of it as a diet, and just followed everything my nut and surgeon suggested. I am 4 months postop today, and except for little things here and there, I dont regret it a bit! I follow my eating plan and feel amazing! it is the best decision ever!!!!!! Sometimes people tell u things that scare you, but at the end of the day its all about you, and its all about how you feel!

[imworthit 156]

I'm scheduled for 10/15 and I am the opposite of you I wake up excited that I am going through with this but by the end of the day I talk myself out of it. I did this whole work up two years ago and chickened out, guess what I'm still fat! I have always been and unless I go through with this I most likely always will be. It's scary the whole surgery and post op, but I think I'm finally ready to just do it.

[Nate 292]

I think everyone goes through emotional extremes coming up to their surgery. I know I did. I wanted it so bad. Yet I was scared as hell.

There were a million different "What If's" running through my mind about the surgery, what if something goes wrong, what if this happens, what if that happens... Then I asked myself what if I don't get the surgery done, and thought about what life would continue to be like, and how long I might have left to live continuing on the way I was.

[Jessielynn 112]

I am the exact same way! The way I help my "mindset" is I go on utube and watch people's journeys. The feeling I get after, usually makes all my doubts disappear

Because that is exactly how I want to feel! ( and look;)

Hope this helps.......it helps me!

[Rootman 1,101]

Been there done that, finally gave in to the fact that I could NOT do it on my own and that I had to have help. I was (not so slowly) killing myself. About 1 3/4 years out and it's by far tge best thing I have ever done for myself Healthwise.< /p>

[ready4change77 88]

I am the same way - mine is scheduled for next Wed @ 7:30 am some days I'm excited & other

days I'm like what am I getting myself into, you read stories & you start to wonder but then I bring myself back to reality, everyone's experience is their experience - I will have my own - everyones body is different & will react differently... Right now I'm day 5 liquid diet & i already can't wait for the day I can't actually eat something other then a little piece of carrots & shakes & Water

[mom2five 292]

I do that too but I've come to the conclusion that if I don't have the surgery, I am going to die. I am starting to have health problems because of my weight. I think (for me) the risk of having surgery is less than the risk of not having it.

So I have felt better since I thought of it that way.

height : 5 ft, weight: 270, BMI: 53 Cant wait to get sleeved!

[xlr8ahead 40]

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I'm waiting for my sleeve to be done in November. I keep going back and forth about it. I wake up in the morning thinking "no way am I going through with this,... it's too extreme..." Then, as the day drags on, I change my mind and think about all the time I've wasted being fat and inactive, letting life go by. I've gone back and forth like this for months while waiting for my official date to be sleeved. I don't know if this is normal or if it's a good idea go through with the sleeve if I'm not 100% behind it. I do know that I'll probably never lose the weight any other way. It's so depressing. I keep thinking what a loser I am that I have to cut my stomach in order to lose weight, that I'm not strong enough or discipline enough to do it the "regular" way. Just need to talk this out...[/quote']

Omg I feel exactly the same way.its driving me mad.but I just want it over with now.so I can relax and move on.

[ShrinkyDinkMe22 376]

Thank you for posting this. I've been going through the same thoughts and emotions. I think it's very real and a step towards our decisions!

Thank you for posting because I thought I was the only one who felt this way.

[amandatxgrl 16]

My surg I in two days and I am still wondering (should I or shouldn't I) everyone tells me not to do it, however until they have been where I am they wouldn't understand! Thanks cause I feel the same way

[ready4change77 88]

@ mom2five & amandatx I have went back & forth as well - I read too much stuff & then start thinking too much but Ik in my heart of hearts I'm make'n the right decision & like mom2five I'm 5' 1/2 & when I started the whole process was 242, have never been this awful feeling - you know be'n short & have'n extra so ik how you feel... No one has said not to do it to me but their like are you sure... It helps b/c @ my job Ik a woman who did it a year ago & she says she would do it over again if she had to... She always tells me when I say what if - she'll say everyone is different & you will be fone

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[Threetimesacharm 1,400]

I am feeling that way right now, day two pre-op. What if I can't cope with the food restriction what if I have a nervous break down, what if I am so miserable all the time, because I am today...............

[ready4change77 88]

Yep go thru those feelings as well - glad to know I'm not the only one

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[dobrien03 31]

Hi everyone' date='

I'm waiting for my sleeve to be done in November. I keep going back and forth about it. I wake up in the morning thinking "no way am I going through with this,... it's too extreme..." Then, as the day drags on, I change my mind and think about all the time I've wasted being fat and inactive, letting life go by. I've gone back and forth like this for months while waiting for my official date to be sleeved. I don't know if this is normal or if it's a good idea go through with the sleeve if I'm not 100% behind it. I do know that I'll probably never lose the weight any other way. It's so depressing. I keep thinking what a loser I am that I have to cut my stomach in order to lose weight, that I'm not strong enough or discipline enough to do it the "regular" way. Just need to talk this out...[/quote']

I will be a week post opt tomorrow. I feel fabulous. The first few days sucked. Now I have more energy then before surgery and I am already down 15 lbs. I am a fan!