Not Eating And Gaining...

[jessfharris 70]

Yup i gained 2 pounds and I haven't ate anything everything sounds bad to me but it's cus I just found out my husband was cheating on me... I guess I'm depressed I have no feelings to do anything, i just found out 2 days ago and I had surgery 8/15... I'm really hurt and I know I'll get thru it but it was the worse time... Can u gain if ur stressing? .... (girls) : can u spot when ur stressing, if u had ur period 2 weeks b4??

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

I am really sorry to hear that you husband is cheating on you. I am sure no time is the right time to find out; however, your hormones are already out of wack due to your surgery. I have not had surgery yet, but I have read many posts about women spotting and have more than one period in a month. I don't think it is uncommon at all after surgery. Your body has gone through a major change and it is trying to figure things out.

I know you are going through a rough time and it is easier said than done, you have to make this about you. I honestly believe that there are many spouses (man or women) that have issues when their spouse has WLS. However, those are their issues and if they are not willing to open up and talk about it what can you do? Right now your priority is healing and getting yourself well.

Again, easier said than done. I am just so sorry you are going through this.

[jessfharris 70]

Thanks... I feel so confused almost lost.... But I'll find my way thru this. Just right now I have no energies to :,(

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

Are you getting your fluids in? Pre-surgery were your a non-eater when stressed or where you a stress-eater?

[jessfharris 70]

I'm drinking alot that hasn't changed... I useto b a stress eater not now ... I hate the tought of food, I think if I eat I'll b fat again. I guess since he left me for a skinny ugly broad... I have the looks the face but shes got the body...

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

The one thing I have read on here is you must try to get to your calorie goal. That could hold you back or stall you. You know what and I have always said this, "You can change being fat, ugly you can't change." Did your husband have issues with you having the surgery that you know of?

[slojo 150]

that Lug! Yes you can gain wt. during stress, your body releases cortisone during stressful times (surgery included), and can make you gain/bloat. I'm so sorry for you but you will get on track and be hotter than ever. You'll show him!!!!

[jessfharris 70]

Yea he kept telln his family that I was gonna leave him when I lost my weight... He was insecure, what a dumbass !

[SleeveandRNYchica 1,155]

Yeah, he is dealing with stuff within himself. Girl, you are going to rock his socks off. He will be regretful.

[deekaspor 89]

Regardless you must eat! He was a stupid f@#$, but don't allow him to make you sick. You will gain if not eating properly because your body is not going to know when it will get food regularly so it will store it leading weight gain.

It was HIS decision to cheat, you getting skinny is not an excuse. Stay strong!

[Ms skinniness 3,003]

The truth be told, he was probably cheating for a long time. This is his loss and your gain. Now it's time to focus on your recovery both physically from the surgery and emotionally from the cheating. You are going to be one hot chick and he is going to regret everything he's done. However, it sounds like your marriage was in trouble before you had this surgery so everything is on track. This is the universe speaking to you. Take care of you and do what you need to do. Stressors will cause weight gain but it's most likely Fluid retention. Get back to eating your Proteins and focus on you. You can only control you and what you do or don't put in your mouth. So don't let him stop you from getting the nourishment that you so need right now.

[alwayseating2012 15]

I was married with a cheater for 8 years.. I never had the balls to leave him becuase of our 2 young children. FYI the cheating never stops hunny. Point is I finally left him when he was cheating on me with my friend. It was hard and I can just imagin for u at this point how it must be. I would move into a friends house of family member until ur strong enough to do it on ur own. I'm really sorry!! U can do it, your pretty and young and ur going to lose weight. You are going to feel so accomplished. That's messed up he would do that knowing ur going through a hard time right now...

[slojo 150]

Make sure you're getting your Protein in. You have to have it to recover, and lose wt...

[Livinglifeout 217]

Although it seems like the worst possible thing to happen to you right now, this too shall pass. You are going to rock your sleeve and turn into the beautiful skinny b***h that is waiting to come out. DO NOT give him the satisfaction of also making you sick or a failure. Follow your program, schedule your mealtimes and force yourself to eat. Take one day at a time. Just concentrate on yourself because YOU are worth it:). Keep us posted we are here for you.

[notime 340]

I'm sorry this happened to you. Please keep us posted on your progress. This board can provide great support.