"nice Abs!"

[ouroborous 519]

So, I was on a first date yesterday. It was a lot of fun, we met for coffee, talked for a couple of hours, and then parted ways. When the evening wound down, I walked her to her motorcycle which was parked out in front of a skeezy dog park in downtown Seattle. Lots of drunks and sketchy folks hanging out.

When we got to her bike, after a little more small talk, we had a nice good night kiss. A VERY nice good night kiss. In fact, it turned into a bit of a make out session in full public view (prompting, I **** you not, a round of applause from the bums drinking in the park!). As we were drawing apart, ready to go our separate ways, she had her hands on my waist, and she commented "wow, nice abs!"

I have never had ANYONE in my ENTIRE LIFE say "nice abs" to me before.

THANK YOU, SLEEVE!

(edit: realized I was being overly defensive about my life choices... without need. Changed the tone!)

[nyxa 159]

congrats to you keep up the good work! i dunno what your ultimate goal is, but whatever it is, i'm sure you can and will accomplish it! i'm happy someone took notice of your hard work

in regards to your lifestyle.. i don't think it really matters to anyone on here. i don't mean that in a negative or "b!tchy" way.. i just mean that most of us have been persecuted in some way because of our weight, so i'm sure we're not as likely to pass harsh judgments on others... since we know how it feels. in regards to you dating a biker chick, more power to you. lol it takes a guy with some balls to handle an independent woman, so go on with your bad self. lol whatever floats your boat & makes you happy.

[ouroborous 519]

congrats to you keep up the good work! i dunno what your ultimate goal is, but whatever it is, i'm sure you can and will accomplish it! i'm happy someone took notice of your hard work

in regards to your lifestyle.. i don't think it really matters to anyone on here. i don't mean that in a negative or "b!tchy" way.. i just mean that most of us have been persecuted in some way because of our weight, so i'm sure we're not as likely to pass harsh judgments on others... since we know how it feels. in regards to you dating a biker chick, more power to you. lol it takes a guy with some balls to handle an independent woman, so go on with your bad self. lol whatever floats your boat & makes you happy.

You'd actually be surprised... I've gotten a couple of VERY negative, judgmental comments and messages about my lifestyle. I suppose the "proper" thing to do would be just to shut up about it, but it's sort of hard to do that when I talk about having a girlfriend AND going out on dates with new folk all in the same post. Then people assume I'm just cheating

But even so, thank you for the kind words

[Izzy0525 14]

LMAO that was hilarious! congrats!

[Sassygirl06 962]

sounds like a great nsv! ;D

[Piplula 709]

In fact' date=' it turned into a bit of a make out session in full public view (prompting, I **** you not, a round of applause from the bums drinking in the park!). ! [/quote']

This is my favorite part of your story ..nothing like getting a round of applause from drunken bums! LOL!

[gustavo52974 369]

I loved your story! And please! You should see the rainbow of people that I've dated. Everything from a closeted network news anchorman to mother's ex boyfriend. Talk about getting judged!

And yes, I've dated a biker or two and I have public intimacy stories that would make your hair curl. Though, I must admit that I've never received any applause. :ph34r:

So I have no place judging you or your chick-magnet abs.

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

That is awesome. It's great to hear compliments we only thought others would hear, not us. I'm so happy for your happiness enjoy!!

It's still hard for me to accept compliments, my husband will tell me how nice I'm looking and I think, in my head, "you don't have to try and make me feel good."

Our lives are definitely looking up!

You go with your sexy self

[ouroborous 519]

This is my favorite part of your story ..nothing like getting a round of applause from drunken bums! LOL!

It cracked us up, too. COMPLETELY ruining the "sexy time" vibe, but leaving us with a warm, companionable laugh together Just as good, if not better!

[ouroborous 519]

I loved your story! And please! You should see the rainbow of people that I've dated. Everything from a closeted network news anchorman to mother's ex boyfriend. Talk about getting judged!

And yes, I've dated a biker or two and I have public intimacy stories that would make your hair curl. Though, I must admit that I've never received any applause. :ph34r:

So I have no place judging you or your chick-magnet abs.

Yeah, it's funny. My sister is gay, and although I've never given a rip (what the heck do I care who she sleeps with or loves? as long as she's happy...) I've never really taken her stories of prejudice very seriously.

Then when I realized I was polyamorous, it was hardwired into me -- so, nothing I could do about it, aside from "pretend" to be monogamous like "everyone else" (and hint: you'd be very surprised how many people practice some flavor of non-monogamy ) -- just like hetero/homo/bi. And I realized that society does NOT appreciate people with multiple lovers (yikes, understatement.) And that's when I started using terms like being "closeted" about being poly (I am, around my "real life" friends, mostly for my girlfriend's sake, she has relatives that simply would NOT accept us) and "coming out" about it (which I SO want to do, but need to respect her wishes). This forum is sort of safe because AFAIK, nobody here knows me in real life

[ouroborous 519]

That is awesome. It's great to hear compliments we only thought others would hear, not us. I'm so happy for your happiness enjoy!!

It's still hard for me to accept compliments, my husband will tell me how nice I'm looking and I think, in my head, "you don't have to try and make me feel good."

Our lives are definitely looking up!

You go with your sexy self

Actually that's a really good point! When she said "nice abs," I actually was tongue-tied for a minute because my first instinct was to minimize it, or point out the remaining little jelly roll, or something. But I'm realizing that not accepting a compliment isn't just unhealthy for me, it's rude; it's like throwing a kind thought back in someone's face.

So, after a moment's discomfort, I just smiled, said "thank you," and kissed her again.

[lessofmeismore 1,405]

You are so right! I'm glad you pointed that out. I'm going to follow your lead and kiss and thank my sweet husband next time he compliments me.

[ouroborous 519]

You are so right! I'm glad you pointed that out. I'm going to follow your lead and kiss and thank my sweet husband next time he compliments me.

Absolutely a wonderful response! Lucky man!

[gustavo52974 369]

Yeah, it's funny. My sister is gay, and although I've never given a rip (what the heck do I care who she sleeps with or loves? as long as she's happy...) I've never really taken her stories of prejudice very seriously.

Then when I realized I was polyamorous, it was hardwired into me -- so, nothing I could do about it, aside from "pretend" to be monogamous like "everyone else" (and hint: you'd be very surprised how many people practice some flavor of non-monogamy ) -- just like hetero/homo/bi. And I realized that society does NOT appreciate people with multiple lovers (yikes, understatement.) And that's when I started using terms like being "closeted" about being poly (I am, around my "real life" friends, mostly for my girlfriend's sake, she has relatives that simply would NOT accept us) and "coming out" about it (which I SO want to do, but need to respect her wishes). This forum is sort of safe because AFAIK, nobody here knows me in real life

Yes, polyamory, polygamy, and polyandry are much more common than people realize. And trust me, it can be quite a challenge to stay monogamous when it's two men in a relationship. Men can separate love from sex, whereas most women can't (sorry gals), which most people don't understand. More importantly, America seems to be stuck on its irritating, arcane self-righteousness about the whole "one man one woman" thing. But don't get me started on that one...

[ouroborous 519]

Yes, polyamory, polygamy, and polyandry are much more common than people realize. And trust me, it's can be quite a challenge to stay monogamous when it's two men in a relationship. Men can separate love from sex, whereas most women can't (sorry gals), which most people don't understand. More importantly, America seems to be stuck on its irritating, arcane self-righteousness about the whole "one man one woman" thing. But don't get me started on that one...

Yup, one man, one woman sort of nails it on the head. It rules out one man, one man, or one woman, one woman, or one man two women, or one woman, two men, or basically anything except the most narrow possible definition of sex and love.

Grr. Don't get ME started either