DanaInNewOrleans 513 Posted August 25, 2012 I'm so upset, frusterated, discouraged, and PISSED. I have lost 73 pounds in 6 months. From 281 pounds to 208 pounds. From a size 26 to a size 18. Not one person has commented on my weightloss. REALLY? This sucks!!!! That doesn't seem possible!!! Are you around lots of jealous types??? Maybe they don't want to be too personal? ( or are you talking about family?) 1 MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
sleevetalker 3 Posted August 25, 2012 I can understand coworkers who know you casually not saying anything. They might think its too personal or want to avoid any HR issues by asking possible inappropriate questions. Sent from my iPad using VST Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MrsSweny 6 Posted August 25, 2012 Thanks for all the kind words. I know I'm doing this for myself, but it would be nice to have a "pat on the back" every once in awhile from my friends and family. I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. I'll just keep on doing my hard work and continue to lose the weight for that is what it's all about. Thanks again for being here and responding to me. At least I have you. 3 mrscastillo, gustavo52974 and DanaInNewOrleans reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Izuri 428 Posted August 25, 2012 That was kinda rude of your mom. No matter what anyone says, you are kicking butt!! 73 pounds is awesome. I'm sure you look much different. I would guess that at least some of the people haven't commented because they aren't sure what to say - I'd imagine don't wanna comment because they aren't sure yet, maybe they've noticed some changes but don't wanna point it out if you haven't actually lost? Either way, you are doing amazing, keep your head up, and the compliments will come eventually. The heavier we start the longer it takes to see a big change. 1 MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sleeved&Hopeful 182 Posted August 25, 2012 73 lbs is a LOT of weight and I am sorry you are not getting the positive feedback you desire. You will get it from us here! I am sorry your family isn't being more supportive. Keep your head up because you are losing VERY WELL 2 DanaInNewOrleans and MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
gustavo52974 369 Posted August 25, 2012 I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. Your mom must be super-model thin for her to think she can pass judgment on you like that. That's shameful. Is she a borderline personality or something? And I thought MY mother was narcissistic and shallow. 2 Ijam75 and MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
LouiseC 1,031 Posted August 25, 2012 I want to slap your mother. Sorry, but that was just such a horrid thing to say to you. I am sorry you don't have the support from your family. I hope you can find support here and, more importantly, I hope you can look in that mirror everyday and tell yourself how freaking fabulous you look and how wonderful you are doing. 1 MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mrscastillo 32 Posted August 25, 2012 Thanks for all the kind words. I know I'm doing this for myself, but it would be nice to have a "pat on the back" every once in awhile from my friends and family. I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. I'll just keep on doing my hard work and continue to lose the weight for that is what it's all about. Thanks again for being here and responding to me. At least I have you. Girl, your family is like mine.... Just keep losing.... When you are as thin as them, you get to say things like "oh my gosh, you look as fat as I used to in that" haha those are amazingly fun things 1 MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
COsleeveDude 273 Posted August 25, 2012 Thanks for all the kind words. I know I'm doing this for myself, but it would be nice to have a "pat on the back" every once in awhile from my friends and family. I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. I'll just keep on doing my hard work and continue to lose the weight for that is what it's all about. Thanks again for being here and responding to me. At least I have you. I get the impression that's not the only problem you have with your mom, or the only problem your mom has. That's why I haven't talked to my father for years: if I don't get any positive net gain out of the relationship, why bother? You don't choose your parents anyway, it's not like you're obligated to stay connected to people who suck just because they had sex and you happened to be a result. 4 MrsSweny, mrscastillo, jayecat and 1 other reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
TweetyBird 6 Posted August 25, 2012 Thanks for all the kind words. I know I'm doing this for myself, but it would be nice to have a "pat on the back" every once in awhile from my friends and family. I tried talking to my Mom about it and her response was..."that's because that's how fat you use to be and still are." I didn't need to hear that. I'll just keep on doing my hard work and continue to lose the weight for that is what it's all about. Thanks again for being here and responding to me. At least I have you. Girl that's crazy, pray for her and keep it moving. Pray that she never have to experience what you and some of us have had to go thru. But you reap what you sow so just try to be there for her when the times yet rough because they will get rough. 3 vsginnj, Sleeved&Hopeful and MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
urboyp 85 Posted August 25, 2012 Maybe it's just the way I view things but..... I wouldn't take it in a negative way. It's like when you see a woman gain some weight and she looks what you may think is "pregnant". I was told never to assume or congratulate when you don't know for sure. It's the same thing here. Weightloss can be cause by many things. Things like stress or a sickness. Maybe these people don't know if you are sick or intentionally losing the weight. I think that it's a big possibility. But either way, keep doing your thing. Try not to feel the way you are feeling and keep attaining those victories! Congrats on your Weightloss. 1 MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
KS Fort Worth 86 Posted August 26, 2012 You should be VERY proud of yourself! I lost 43 pounds before surgery, but it wasn't until a couple of weeks ago, when it really started to show in my face, that people started really noticing. I also waited waaay too long to downsize my clothing, because don't want to buy a lot of stuff (even second-hand) that I will wear for only a short while. You too, possibly? Hang in there! I'm sure everyone will say something sooner or later! 2 MrsSweny and SkinnyMinnie2Be reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FiremansAngel 20 Posted August 27, 2012 I had someone tell me that they didn't want to say anything about my weight loss because they thought I might be sick or something. Lol Keep on rockin' sweetie! 1 MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Ijam75 102 Posted August 28, 2012 You have gone an excellent job, keep up the great work!! We put so much focus on our sleeve and nutrition and exercise, etc that it really becomes a big part of who we are. Because of this, I think we over analyse every aspect of it at times. You are beautiful, I guarantee people notice and just assume its not a topic you wish to discuss. Take a look around and you will find other people are upset because others are asking about their weight loss. Keep up the great work. Sent from my mobile productivity killer. 1 MrsSweny reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Marty McSkinnystein 342 Posted August 28, 2012 Congratulations on your weight loss! That's incredible! A friend told me she complimented someone on her weight loss and she found out later the woman had cancer. She said that's the last time she'll do that before knowing for sure the story. That's doesn't explain EVERYONE in your life. Unless some jealous person passed on that you don't want to call attention.... (now that would be terrible). Haha, I think I'm watching too much competition "reality t.v." with that line of thinking. Anyway, keep on shrinking...and hold your head up high! 2 MrsSweny and Sleeved&Hopeful reacted to this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites