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So, I will be 5 weeks out on Tuesday 8/21. I have noticed that I have gained an appetite back..and I can eat anything I feel like I might want to try. (Still not eating fried or fast foods, though)

I drink sweet tea.

Water hurts and instantly nauseates me :(

Crystal light burns my throat.

I even feel like sometimes I over eat. I just feel like a huge failure right now. I'm super emotional and moody. I eat throughout the day, too..little bits at a time.

Anyone else feel this way? And my scale is messed up, just bought it at Target and its totally off, even after setting it. So I don't know my weight.

Ugh. :( I wanna cry

All comments & feedback appreciated! Just don't be mean, please!

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Okay. This is about choices. You know the sleeve is a tool, not a magic wand. It is still up to you to make good choices for body.

You know what you need to do, the question is, will you choose to do it?

Small, regular meals. Protein first. Don't drink your carbs. Don't drink while you eat. Keep hydrated.

These are simple rules to live by. Don't actively choose to fail when you have the tool that can help you succeed. It's really up to you now to make this work. Keep on the sweet tea and the grazing approach to eating and yes, you will likely fail. So choose not to. Go back to basics. Stick to the plan. Succeed.

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Okay. This is about choices. You know the sleeve is a tool' date=' not a magic wand. It is still up to you to make good choices for body.

You know what you need to do, the question is, will you choose to do it?

Small, regular meals. Protein first. Don't drink your carbs. Don't drink while you eat. Keep hydrated.

These are simple rules to live by. Don't actively choose to fail when you have the tool that can help you succeed. It's really up to you now to make this work. Keep on the sweet tea and the grazing approach to eating and yes, you will likely fail. So choose not to. Go back to basics. Stick to the plan. Succeed.[/quote']

Well said! Tomorrow, (well today) is a new day, I plan on starting over..no more tea and grazing! Its just harder than I thought. I know we all know this is a tool, but I think some of us still hope & pray that the weight will fall off. But I know I am going to have to work for it. And I'm going to. Starting now. :) thanks for the response!

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I felt the same why. You will have days that you want to sit and eat and drink like you did due to emotions and surroundings. You are better than this! You are a new you! You will succeed!

I'm a year and 5 months out from my sleeve and I still have bad days. My advise..

Give yourself credit for making the first step.. It's all about baby steps to a new life

eggs are amazing (but get boring) but when you want to eat go for the eggs or Protein shake.

I've learned that tea (even unsweetened) has chemicals in it that make you crave sugar! (this from my doctors office)

treat yourself to a nice scale and remember weigh yourself the same time each day.. (I do it first thing when I wake up, after I use the bathroom!!)

It will get better and before you know it you will be a whole new you! :D

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Great advice and extremely helpful to those of us who are not strong enough to post the same feelings ! Thank you all for this post..

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The Emotional First + Aid Kit: A Practical Guide to Life After Bariatric Surgery, Second Edition [Paperback]

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I felt the same why. You will have days that you want to sit and eat and drink like you did due to emotions and surroundings. You are better than this! You are a new you! You will succeed!

I'm a year and 5 months out from my sleeve and I still have bad days. My advise..

Give yourself credit for making the first step.. It's all about baby steps to a new life

eggs are amazing (but get boring) but when you want to eat go for the eggs or Protein shake.

I've learned that tea (even unsweetened) has chemicals in it that make you crave sugar! (this from my doctors office)

treat yourself to a nice scale and remember weigh yourself the same time each day.. (I do it first thing when I wake up' date=' after I use the bathroom!!)

It will get better and before you know it you will be a whole new you! :D[/quote']

Thank you for your response! That's good advice and motivating advice! Today I'm starting fresh! Ill have an egg for Breakfast and eat healthier today! I love my sweet tea, but I know its no good for me!

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