What Was Your Final "straw That Broke The Camels Back"

[kw2walker 211]

I lost someone I thought was my bestfriend. He and I were very close' date=' for 3 years. We hung out and talked all the time. He was even the first person I told about having surgery and he was so supportive. Now, If I see him on the street, it's a "what's up" or "Hey, D" and that's it. That's the straw. I miss him all the time but yet, I want him to suffer. Is it selfish of me? I guess. I have surgery next week (8/27) and I'm so ready for this change.[/quote']

Is your friend heavy also. Maybe they feel left out or unsure of how the relationship will be once the weight starts to come off.

[Momonanomo 534]

My final straw was my first wedding anniversary we went away to a fancy hotel and I snored so badly my poor husband was miserable. I told him that our second anniversary everything would be different. It will be! I stopped snoring almost right after surgery.

I'm so grateful for that.

[Jerzygurl 372]

My last straw was a couple of years ago. I kept getting tired of buying new clothes (bigger sizes), taking HBP meds, being uncomforable and being disguted at my image in the mirror. I started to do something about it too, even went to a surgeon for the lapband, but shortly thereafter, I had a reoccurrence of cancer. So that was postponed, from there it was two long rounds of chemotherapy. Meanwhile, I kept getting bigger and bigger and bigger... I ate mostly from depression and self-isolation... I had lost four people very close to me to cancer within a year's time, plus I had to deal with my own cancer issues.. truth is, I had completely given up and just ate and ate and ate..like I wanted to die too.. I thought what the heck, we are all going to die anyway--then my doctor put me on an anti-depressant last Christmas and I started to feel much better..even while currently in chemotherapy. I finished chemo this past may and knew it was time to do something; to get serious and to take control of my life and my actions. I must say, I am also completely tired and fed up with wearing out the thighs of all my pants too.. I am embarrassed to be this size..this is the largest I've ever been and I'm uncomfortable, my knees hurt, my feet and back ache and I now have urinary stress incontinence attributed to my weight gain! My blood pressure stays high even w/meds (PCP added another pill today to bring it down or I won't be able to have surgery), my feet and ankles swell..ugh.. I'm just ready to get this party started... I want this weight off.. and I'm ready to tackle it...seriously. In a way glad the lapband didn't happen back then, going for the sleeve now and the process with my insurance company is much quicker than it was before, now its immediate approval with my health issues as opposed to a 6 month wait...

Gotta look at the bright side...

Thanks for reading...

[belunos 93]

Fatty liver.

Been thinking about it for a while (was originally the band), but having a fatty liver got the ball rolling. Haven't done it yet, but got my first consult next month!

[Miss Mac 6,262]

Go as if your life depended on it. We're all rooting for you!

[lemassey76 12]

After my husband had his sleeve, he'd eat a few bites and then hand me his plate. I'd finish his food. I think I gained 20 pounds before I woke up. The big thing, though is that my husband lost 200 pounds. I can't afford to lose that much, but I realized that if he could do it I could do it. We have a 13 year old son and want to adopt. I need to be healthier for my son and any future kids.

[ItzKat 1]

I have to travel a great deal for work and I was sitting in the airport one day and realized that I was the largest person in the waiting area. It depressed me because I have tried so many different programs before and always gained the weight back. Then about two weeks later my cardiologist (treating me for a genetic heart disease) told me that even though my heart disease is the number one cause of sudden cardiac arrest, my weight was the biggest threat to my health. That did it for me.

[homersmomma 77]

Over the years there have been MANY straws loaded up on my camels back. I have researched bariatric surgery over the years and gone to a bunch of seminars, Following the sudden passing of my significant other who was also obese due to the complications of CHF, diabetes and heart disease at 48 years of age. Then in a few months time his sister at 50 for the same health reasons also obese. My own struggle with diabetes, sleep apnea, hypertension, joint and back pain. I was most unhappy with my most recent lab results. I knew that if I did not make a change now I would not be a part of my grand children's lives. Either due to my increasing co-morbidities or just being too fat to be involved in their lives.

[keke 60]

Went to vacation in June and I felt so ugly especially in a swimsuit ... Over heard someone saying you don't want that cow... That hurt really bad

[homersmomma 77]

Went to vacation in June and I felt so ugly especially in a swimsuit ... Over heard someone saying you don't want that cow... That hurt really bad

I know what you mean. People can be so cruel. I have heard comments said about me by a__holes being funny for their pals and I have heard things said by those in my own family that cut the deepest.

[italian-girl 152]

For me, it was a hairline fracture in both of my feet. I was out doing the couch to 5k program and doing pretty well till I had these pains in my feet so I went to a foot specialist. Where I found out I hairline fractured a bone in each foot. Was then told to lose weight before I worked out, but to stay off my feet for a while as they take a long time to heal... That combined with my diabetes my PCP and I had a long talk and decided this was the best decision for me.

Although in the couple months I was doing the diet and exercise plan and lost weight, my injury made it impossible to keep off because I was already devastated that here I was doing well and of course I'd get injured.

I'm looking forward to getting back to trying the couch to 5k again after some weight loss because it really was a great program.

[Jerzygurl 372]

Went to vacation in June and I felt so ugly especially in a swimsuit ... Over heard someone saying you don't want that cow... That hurt really bad

Ugh..I understand. Been there. Done that. While in Dominican Republic I saw a couple of resort workers making "grande" curves in the air to one of the fellas that said hello and was nice to me. My feelings were so hurt.

I shouldn't have let my friends talk me into traveling there. For the last 8 years, I've always vacationed in Jamaica . The men there love larger women and I felt totally adored and beautiful, but alas it was only vacation and I always had to come back to the reality of my life and health issues.

[keke 60]

Because of my weight I didn't get to do much like horseback riding, swimming with dolphins and some other things...... Btw if was a woman who made that comment about me smh

[ajotto25 3]

I am 27 yrs old i have been overweight for 13yrs. I was raised on poor eating habits soda, fried food and fast food. I started to get teased in school because of my weight. But when you come from an overweight family you feel normal at least thats what they tell you. I would take all kinds of diets pills and weightloss programs. I knew those like the back of my hand. I tried weight watchers and that took off 50lbs, i went from a size 16 to a tight 7/8. But i gained it all back plus more cause it got expensive. When i was 19 i got pregnant with my first child a girl. I weighed 183 after she was born and had high blood pressure. I went back on weight watchers joined a gym and took up a cycling class 3. times a wk. Which was good for awhile but the weight was harder to loose. I started taking phentermine and i took that so long it stopped working. I was so frustrated. I had a few family memebers and my sister who had weightloss surgery. I always thought i was not overweight enough for that and was scared. Then at my highest weight of 212 and height 5 ft, my body had enough. So i talked to my family doctor and he said it would be a good idea to see dr.patel for a consult. I must admit i was thinking they will never approve me, but they did. I was shocked, but also depressed cause i am like wow i am severly obese with a bmi of 43. I had alot of support as i went through my pre op appointments for 6months. My doctors team was great. I am happy i did it now i can be active with my daughter since 6 yr old are very active. I am now 6months out and down a total of 45lbs . I hope this helps someone on their journey

[back2barb78 890]

Lots of straws- same as many of you- fears of breaking chairs, love life not like it used to be. In my bathroom when I go to the toilet it faces the mirror so I can just sit there and look at myself- I'm so done with this fat. And I am a nurse and it doesn't set a good example . BTW this weight started again (I had lost 100 lbs before and got down to 160 on my own and gained it all back plus wayyyy more) while I was in nursing school studying instead of working out like I normally did because I wanted to be valedictorian of my class which no one cares about now. I have been talking about getting a lap band for about a year now but had no clue I could start the process myself or that I could pay out of pocket otherwise I would have done this years ago before it got so out of control. I though my PCP had to refer me and she would always just talk to me about "lifestyle modifications" every year at my physical. Whatever lady, I lost 20 and gained 30. I started avoiding her and not keeping my weight check follow up appointment. I don't go to social events anymore and use work as an excuse to hid from people I know because I look NOTHING like I used to 7 years ago. I'm tired of the "you have such a pretty face" line when people used to just say "you're pretty". I know exactly what that means- you're too pretty to be thick and fat like that. My friends brother asked me my name when he saw me last March and seriously had no clue who I was and had a stunned shocked look on his face when I told him- this is someone I've known for 20 years. That said it all. I researched and decided on the sleeve instead.