Blaming the Patient

[texasbelle 0]

I never post there and have not even been reading that board anymore because of just the kind of response you got Donali. Some people are just hate filled and it comes out in the guise of "trying to help". My motto is "It is nice to be important but it is more important to be nice". I applaud your restraint,

[Alexandra 55]

Lame as it can be, I'm going to put in $.02 for SmartBandsters. It's a great site and the best place to soak in the wisdom of the marvelous Jessie Ahroni. Sure there are some loudmouths and self-appointed experts, but they are everywhere. It's funny to see them evolve--I've been reading SB for almost two years now, well before DL was banded. Wow, he's learned a lot!

Donali, you're taking the best approach and I wish everyone were so smart about online discourse. Head-to-head arguments just spoil it for everyone else after a while.

I took a long break from reading SB but started up again recently. I need the daily--nay, 50 x a day!--reminder that I should be good to my band and let it work for me instead of fighting it. I'm not losing weight so here is my public announcement of my intention to get back on the BAND wagon!!

[donali 57]

Alexandra - you are right. That's why I read Smartbandsters as well. I just rarely post anywhere but here. If you are not already a member of graduatebandsters you may want to join there as well. Jessie posts there too, and you get the wonderful insight of Patricia, and Sarina, and a couple of other really thoughtful people that aren't coming to mind right off hand (it's only 4:45am... lol It appears I have successfully replaced my food addiction with lapbandtalk addiction, at least for the moment!!! .

Everyone else - as always, your support means everything to me. Even something as inane as a little argument on a support board, and you guys come out of the woodwork to bolster my spirits. Amazing...

Have I mentioned lately that "YOU GUYS ROCK!!"???

[Alexandra 55]

Graduate bandsters is great, too, yes indeedy. Thank goodness for people like the ones you name who are willing to share their journeys. Where would any of us be without the internet?

Seriously, remember the dark ages? I for one would never have had the courage to take the step of being banded without the 'net. I'm thinking about what I would have said if a doctor floated the subject with me; I'd have run screaming from the room. But reading the experiences of hundreds of other people over the course of a year made it a reality for me.

Getting the thread back on track: blaming the patient would be a lot easier if we didn't have this and similar venues to discuss our experiences. HA!!

[donali 57]

blaming the patient would be a lot easier if we didn't have this and similar venues to discuss our experiences.

Not enough can be said about peer support in this regard. I am not denying that my behaviours may have caused or contributed to my erosion, but KNOWING that erosion is a possible complication for ANY implantable device does help me to be at peace with what has happened.

I wish there was a way to know for sure, but in a way maybe it's better that I don't... I just think it's important to not perpetuate speculation as fact. Speculation is valuable and has it place, but is not the same as FACT.

[DeLarla 22]

Dr. Kuri let her out! He makes me feel so good! I have a major leak, much worse than before, but he called like we're old buddies and made me feel awesome! It's a whole 'nother world when you have a doc who cares.

I joined that fancy SmartBandsters board last night, Donali. WOOF. Beware! But this place is so much warmer and fuzzier. This board is like coming home.

[donali 57]

But this place is so much warmer and fuzzier. This board is like coming home.

Ain't that the truth?!?!

I was talking about all the support I was getting to my sister, and without thinking I said, "MY board..."

lol

[La_madam 20]

I concur with Lisa, I do go to the yahoo groups..Smartbandsters, Bandsters, Dr Ortiz and OSCB but by far this board is where I feel most comfortable. I feel as though I get attacked when I post over there. I don't like that feeling

[DeLarla 22]

Yes, it's very dangerous at those other boards. Hell, I made one comment about my bra and decided to go braless after all that insanity. And I wasn't even referring to the purple one!

[New Hope 37]

Out of curiosity about "Dan" being such a jerk to Donali, I joined Smartbandsters. What a bunch of sharks! I saw all the comments about your bra, Lisa. "Dan" was really getting into that! Plus, the layout is hard to follow.

[donali 57]

HEY... The purple bra is OURS here at lapbandtalk. Don't be taking it to the other boards!!!!!!!!!!1

[Alexandra 55]

Dan's fault is that he seems to be utterly without a sense of humor or any imagination. Honestly, how hard was it to figure out that Lisa was talking about the sets of hooks?!?! The initial comment may have been intended as funny, but when he admitted he was serious I thought, then why in hell say it? Other people start to dissect the thing, chime in with equally silly comments, and before you know it your e-mail box is flooded with inanity. That sort of thing is what derails online lists all the time, and really tries my patience. With email lists especially it's important to be judicious in posting.

I <3 LBT.

[DeLarla 22]

Jeannie, yes, that other band is crazy and hard to follow. My bra comment went way south. Someone posted all the things she can do now that she lost a bunch of weight, like climbing stairs. So I responded that I can now put my bra by reaching around back to clasp it instead of clasping it in front and spinning it around. Soon people were asking if I had 4 boobs, then Dan got all weird cuz he didn't understand it, and I had a heck of a time back paddling.

They are too smart for me over there and nobody laughs much. Maybe I need to tell them that Grampa bought a rubber?

Donali, once again, I was just talking about bras in general and did NOT share "the" purple bra with anyone there!

And where the heck is Shellyj these days?

[DeLarla 22]

Well yes, hooks. Hasn't he ever seen a bra? Did he actually thing I spun my boobs around? I'll choose my words more wisely. Glad y'all understandy me babbly.

[New Hope 37]

Well, Lisa, if he'd read your posts about pole dancing and stripping, seen the purple bra and hooker glover, he might just think that you could sling your boobs around! But we'll keep that our little secret!

I got the impression that Smartbandsters doesn't want any new kids on the block asking the same old ?? Plus, it looks like they edit most of the posts.

I love this website!