Neenagh's Nutty Nattering

neenagh · October 28, 2006

Hey wheezy, I have gotten to the point where i just show up at work, do the best i can, and go home and try to not care. I don't make suggestions, i don't have initiative, don't take work home with me, nothing. I have been shot down so many times that i finally learned my lesson. They dont want us to think, to improve anything, just be mindless drones and do what we are told! so thats what they get

Yoda · October 28, 2006

hmmmmmmmmmmm

*thinking Neenagh must also work for the Federal Gov't, like I do!"

neenagh · October 28, 2006

Yoda, your psychic!!!

Wheezy · October 29, 2006

Hey wheezy, I have gotten to the point where i just show up at work, do the best i can, and go home and try to not care. I don't make suggestions, i don't have initiative, don't take work home with me, nothing. I have been shot down so many times that i finally learned my lesson. They dont want us to think, to improve anything, just be mindless drones and do what we are told! so thats what they get

That's just such a shame. I wish I knew how to do that but it's time I start practicing.

Speaking of work, I work with a crazy lady. I don't really work with her but sometimes we have to communicate about lab stuff. She is in charge of the Transfusion Medicine Lab. just down the hall from me. We share the same staff and we both have to manage the day to day stuff like, scheduling etc. She's always been a little crazy but since she is menopausal, Man, she's become psychotic. She flips out on people 2 to 3 times a week. I had a bad week last week, and Friday it was topped with the psychopath flipping out on me. It was nuts, she walked in my department and started chewing me out (yelling) in front of everyone. She then left and came back in to do it all over again, she repeated this twice more. The 5th time she just walked in and walked out again slamming the door.

I am tired of putting up with this. I am considering reporting her behavior as harassment. (This is not the first time she freaks out on me.) It's a dilemma. To report or not to report. I am fed up. It's so upsetting to everyone when she does this, but we all walked on eggshells around her. The fear is if you report her, she will make things even worst, and who wants to deal with that.

Lila · October 29, 2006

Louise

Are you in a Union? Even if you're not, no one needs to put up with THAT. OMG that is not just harassment, that's abuse. Report her. Really, can it be any worse, maybe it just might make things better.

I hope things can better for you.

Wheezy · October 29, 2006

Louise
Are you in a Union? Even if you're not, no one needs to put up with THAT. OMG that is not just harassment, that's abuse. Report her. Really, can it be any worse, maybe it just might make things better.

I hope things can better for you.

Lila, you're probably right, she should be reported. What I fear the most is that she is a master manipulator. She has a way to turn things around and makes it look like it's everyone else's fault. I tried talking to my superior about her behavior in the past and he said that she had reported me as being the problem. Only this time she did it in front of people so there are witnesses. And when she wants to be really nasty, she will say it in French so no one else will understand what she is saying....except me.

Yoda · October 29, 2006

Report Report Report.

Document each incident as it happens.

CLOE · October 29, 2006

Well, I shouldnt give advice cause I don't work in a public place with lots of co-workers. But has she always been a bitch? Personally, I always try the nice route first. Maybe bring her a cute mug with some chocolates or something, tell her you've noticed she's having a hard time lately, then let her know you hate taking the brunt of it. Then see how she responds. If she feels bad and trys to be nice, great. If she still is a bitch, the report her sorry ass to management!! I wouldnt take a single thing from her ever again. You know you tried your best, and BUST THE BITCH!!

green · October 29, 2006

My advice was going to be the same as Lila's, almost word for word in fact. You say that she was yelling at you in front of other people; this means that you have witnesses. Maybe they will help you out. And not only that, a woman who behaves like this to you is behaving like this to others. There may be a number of people who would like to bring her down and will speak up about her behaviour if you all go together. This woman is definitely a bully and is out of control. I really feel for you.

Lila · October 29, 2006

Wheezy

I have dealt with those manipulator types more than once. It is so consuming and frustrating. I always seem to be the one who outs them. I 've had to suffer while this one in particular,told every one lies about me, it was a very isolating.

Just keep your chin up, she's trying to break you . She feels threatened by you and she wants you to feels as inferior as she does. Do not give her the satisfaction.

I really can empathize with you.

And if that doesn't work, I know people!!! (Ask Neenagh, we're in negotiation for some work in her area. LOL)

neenagh · October 29, 2006

Put your home voice mail on your speed dial, then when she heads your way, dial it so that you can say, you just happened to be leaving yourself a msg at home when she came in and her head exploded, and you were so shocked you forgot to hang up and lo and behold, the whole nasty episode was recorded on your voicemail!

Also Lila, KNOWS PEOPLE. wink wink nudge nudge, therefore, she's a very handy person to know!

green · October 29, 2006

You could just openly tape her whenever she talks to you. This might encourage her to kick it down a notch or six.

neenagh · October 29, 2006

even better green

Wheezy · October 29, 2006

Well, I shouldnt give advice cause I don't work in a public place with lots of co-workers. But has she always been a bitch? Personally, I always try the nice route first. Maybe bring her a cute mug with some chocolates or something, tell her you've noticed she's having a hard time lately, then let her know you hate taking the brunt of it. Then see how she responds. If she feels bad and trys to be nice, great. If she still is a bitch, the report her sorry ass to management!! I wouldnt take a single thing from her ever again. You know you tried your best, and BUST THE BITCH!!

Oh Cloe, I have tried, I've had several heart to heart conversations with her. I've told her how much I care about her, I've told her what I like about her, I have even apologized even though I had nothing to apologies about. I've told her that I knew that we had a communication problem and asked her what I could do that would help our situation. Of course she never had suggestions on what could be done to help, nor did she ever apologized for her behavior. Last Friday was the straw that broke the camel's back. That's it I'm fed up, I'm not taking it anymore.