Who Have You Told?!

[Cookeeeeez 269]

Just wondering:

How many people know about your plans to have wls or that you have had wls?

I'm the sorta person to tell anyone/everyone because spreading the word can help inform the ignorant and inspire those who need it...

My sis had breast implants- doesn't tell anyone, in a way I think (although her choice) because womens bodies are "public objects" she is doing a disservice to girls who are told they are natural and then feel bad for wanting the implants she secretly has!

Although there is a lot of judgement with wls I feel confident I can handle it but would love to hear from people who keep theirs private and how they deal with people who ask how they lost so much weight...

No judgment at all, just curious to see other point of view (I am a sociologist after all lol!!!)

[Aaron in Tulsa 147]

I have told virtually everyone I know. Family, church friends, coworkers. I don't really care what their opinions are, but I haven't gotten any negative feedback at all.

[Aaron in Tulsa 147]

And I haven't had surgery yet.

[PEvette 297]

Before I had surgery, I was selective in who I told....I wasn't interested in hearing unsolicited advice....now being 2 months post op, I have the motto of if a person doesn't ask, then I will not tell....honestly its no ones business unless you want to the a spokesperson for WLS....

SO when people ask, I tell them I'm following a high protien diet and limiting my carbs, and its working....whether they choose to believe it or not, is not my concern, honestly I dont go around asking people about their weight losses or gains....

If a person doesnt come out and out right ask me, I dont tell...

[dar1983 751]

I told a choice circle of girlfriends, 3 co-workers, and assorted family. My husband has told everyone else. Thanks.

[Michele T 48]

I like the 'don't ask, don't tell'. I've told a few close friends but I have NOT told my husband's family nor will I.

[Cookeeeeez 269]

I agree, if not spokesperson motto, and my partners family all know but think diet/exercise is key...

I will just show them proof in pudding post-op ... since they've seen me yo-yo so many times I think maybe they'll be more open about it when they know it works for some

[Cookeeeeez 269]

Lol @ dar1983,

Im glad he's so "supportive"

[giggles012980 12]

I've told some co-workers & my family, have very judgmental inlaw family THEY have not been told although I did tell my sis in law who probably blabbed to everyone! I'm 5 months out and have gradually shed almost 60# so I just get the "wow your looking really good" comments I secretly smile & say thanks & pretend I haven't really noticed...

[mrscastillo 32]

I told everyone when I got the lapband..... Different "friends" always told me that i should do it on my own, but they didn't know I gained 150lbs over 7 years.....

Now that I'm getting the sleeve, I'm not telling anyone. My husband, family, my in-laws and my 2 closest friends (they both want the sleeve too....) They are all very supportive. My other friends are not. they still think I can go to they gym, run and lose the weight on my own...

[Cookeeeeez 269]

Mrscastillo:

Let's put them all in a giant fat suit and see how fast they can run!!!!

[Squisha 99]

I have been open and will tell anyone. I told alot of people before surgery and now that i am 4.5 months out, and down 83lbs, people that i didn't tell are commenting on how good i am looking and if they ask me how i am losing it i will let them know that i had surgery.

[mrscastillo 32]

Mrscastillo:

Let's put them all in a giant fat suit and see how fast they can run!!!!

hahhahahahahaha that would be fun to watch....or send them to the mall for clothes shopping so they could see how depressing it is :/

[Cookeeeeez 269]

Lol- and watch everything they eat, commenting at intervals"is that really a good choice for you!?"

Mwahaha *evil laugh*

[2bsmallagain 156]

I am with the don't ask don't tell motto. I told one person in my family and got a very negative response so I am selective about who I tell. I also like hearing how good I look and having a positive response versus oh you had surgery response. Some people are either jealous that you had or say it is the easy way out. They are ignorant and have no idea how hard this decision is to make and live with. With that said I would not change my decision for anything. I am very happy with my loss and very happy with my life right now. Telling is very personal choice because everyone has family and friends with different a outlook on WLS. Good luck to everyone.