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"Have you been you sick?"

"Are you okay?"

"Have you been feeling well?"

A lot of people would probably be either offended or put off by these questions. Not this gal! I went to the movies with a friend I hadn't seen since before my surgery and have lost about 80 pounds since she had last seen me. As we were sitting into our seats, she asked me if I had gotten sick and was feeling okay. Now, I actually took it as a compliment! Is that weird? I mean, I didn't take it that she thought I looked sick, just that I appear so skinny compared to before that the only explanation was that I had fallen ill!

Yeah... I AM weird.... Hmm...

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Congratulations!

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I will take people asking if I have been sick over are you pregnant (big Belly) any day!

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Yes, my mailman asked me the same thing. I said, No, I want to look like this and I worked hard to get here! I wasn't offended at all.

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I love this question ! :)

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I get asked that a lot as well, and I take it as a compliment too. I also get asked quite a few questions about the type of surgery I had. I never lie about the fact I had surgery, and I have found people around me looking into it because of my progress. The only person who is asking me if I eating enough is my mother, but that's because she is my mom and loves me and wants me to be healthy.

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The best compliment I got was a friend who sees me every 2-3 months does a huge DOUBLE take. She also told me she cant imagine me losing another 45 pounds or so - well, I still have plenty of fat, but it was a nice compliment. :) Another friend didn't recognize me - I hadn't seen her in about 3 months. My sister from out of state saw me and told me I was just radiant - happy!

I haven't heard the sick comment, but i have to tell you I committed a huge Faux pas about 15 years ago. My son's teacher was a very very large woman and she was losing weight. Since I was very obese too, I complimented her on the weight loss, only to find out she was dying of stage 4 cancer. :( No wonder people are so paranoid about giving compliments on weight loss - I felt absolutely horrible.

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I'm sorry to hear about your son's teacher, Jane. :(

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I will take people asking if I have been sick over are you pregnant (big Belly) any day!

I am looking forward to NOT getting "compliments" from strangers: "You look so beautiful! Probably almost due, huh?". It has happened in front of a date, group of people...ugh!!!

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