Newby with questions

[Wheetsin 714]

<O:p</O:pI have a 1 year old son and I am wondering how long after the surgery would I need help with him? Would I not be able to lift him I was never given specific lifting instructions. Then again I never asked! I dont have a baby, but I probably wouldn't have been able to for about 2 days, I'm guessing...

Would it be impossible to keep the surgery to yourself (i.e. I dont want to explain it to all 50 moms in our playgroup, my husband's office, our neighbors, the grocery store workers, etc. I just think its personal information)? Did anyone keep it to close friends and family only or does everyone notice your new eating and weight loss? I told peolpe about mine, I figured I had nothing to hide, and it doesn't bother me a bit for people to know. I couldn't have kept mine secret, anyway. "I'm on a diet" or "I'm eating smaller portions" wouldn't have come close to explaining the difference in the way I eat, and honestly - I think if I'd tried, people would speculate I'd had RNY anyway, and I'd rather be KNOWN for having lap-band, than SUSPECTED of having RNY. I don't like lying to people, and don't think I could "excuse" my way around having to leave for a PB, or being in pain when something is stuck, etc. without getting into lies. And also -- I figured, if something ever goes wrong, or something ever happens to me, it might be plain old smart for people around me to know what's up.

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Has anyone had it done with a BMI in the low 50s? Me.<O:p</O:p

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Are the seminars required by doctors? Again, I just feel strongly that it is personal for me and no way would I do an seminar. Most doctors require you attend their seminar. There isn't IMO anything taking away from the personal factor, or privacy. I mean, you're there, and if people are interested they could look around and see you, but what are the chances they're going to care, or remember you 5 minutes later? I would recommend the seminar. You'll get very important information, and it's an opportunity to ask the surgeon questions. If it's that big of a deal, wear a disguise, a wig and glasses or something.

<O:pDoes anyone have a favorite doctor in Houston Texas? Umm no...

Has anyone had a husband (or wife) who was not for the idea? At first, because he didn't understand it. I took him to the seminar with me, and he came around very quickly, to where he was wanting me to do it as much as I was.

[missy4gordon 0]

thanks everyone. I am a bit disheartened though. My husband could take a week off work to take care of the baby, but after that, I would be on my own...and there is no way to care for a baby without picking them up.

Perhaps it wasnt meant to be. Thanks for all the info!

Carol

Please don't give up because of this. I probably could have lifted my son sooner, but I just chose not to only because my port area was sore and I didn't want to bother it. But I think if your husband can take one week off, that is good, the rest just take it as it comes. But please don't count it out so soon! Keep on.