I Know I'm Not Supposed To Compare...

[fell4falls 18]

I'm so frustrated with myself and disgusted with my body!! I know I'm not supposed to compare my journey with others, but I can't help myself. My sister in law had her surgery 6 weeks before I had mine. She is already below her goal. I am almost 7 months out and I am at a measley 56 lbs. I am so upset and frustrated that I can't even be around her at family get togethers any more because I feel like such a failure. I know I have to get back to working out (I got down on myself, and stopped working out about 3 weeks ago). I just want to cry. Granted, her BMI was MUCH higher than mine at the time of surgery, and I know that things move slower for those of us with lower BMIs. Before surgery, 56 lbs lost would have felt like a victory...so why does it feel like a massive failure after surgery? I really don't mean to come across as feeling sorry for myself, and I apologize if I do.

[Shape_Shifter 83]

Put on an old pair of pants that were tight to remind yourself how far YOU have come. Look at some of the NSV that you have had. I am a low-bmi having surgery soon and I'm worried about the same thing. I have a friend who had surgery and lost alot of weight quickly and she will be the person to comment on how slow I am loosing.

You are loseing. You've lost alot. You've come a long way. Keep it up. Compare yourself to where you would have been if you did't have the surgery.

And...Be sure to remind me of all of this when I'm having the same problem. good luck.

[chitowngirl 886]

Don't beat yourself up. Your journey is not complete, you are getting there at your body's pace. On the bright side, you prob won't have severe skin issues. Feel proud of every damn pound lost, because it's gone forever and not coming back. Start monitoring your food and Protein intake, and be happy with the peace of mind that you are doing all you can. Best of luck to you!!!

[Finding MeMe 204]

Remember all of our bodies/metabolism are different so we will lose wt. at different rates. This is why I don't compare myself with others, I continue to exercise at least 60 min, 5 days a week and lift wts at least three days per week and my wt, is coming down in a healthy way. Exercise is very important to losing the wt. and keeping it off. You also don't want to lose the wt. too fast because of Hair loss, etc. Good luck to you and please stop comparing your loss to others.